Hello all,
Any advice about how to handle a bridal shower in this situation would be very helpful.
My fiance and I met in graduate school, and live in and will be married in a college town in Indiana this summer. Besides the two of us, though, nearly all the rest of our guests will need to travel. My parents live in Ohio, about 4 hours east of us. My fiance's parent's live about 8 hours west of us in Missouri. All but one of my bridesmaids live even farther away (MOH is in San Francisco, others in DC, Rhode Island, Florida -- only one is in Ohio, about 3 hours away). Several of my BMs and I are still graduate students, living off loans or on very limited budgets. I am very honored just to have them coming to the wedding, and would not expect them to plan a bridal shower. I plan on having the bachelorette party two days before the wedding so they can all travel just once (and it just so happens to be my birthday, so it seems a good excuse to have a girls' night).
Since my fiance and I are having the wedding in Indiana, we are having a small wedding, with only family and close friends attending. We are not expecting a lot of other "hometown" friends to make the trip. However, my mother would really like to host a small bridal shower for me in my old hometown Ohio with some of our friends who likely won't be able to attend the wedding. Is this okay? I feel rather weird about it since I think at best I might only be able to have one bridesmaid join me, and probably none of the women from the groom's family can make it, either. I know usually it is faux pas for mothers to host bridal parties, but I don't think this is so much about giving gifts (between my fiance and I who both have lived on our own, we have all the appliances we need). Mostly I think my mom just wants to throw a little party to have snacks and celebrate with some of the family friends. I'm happy to attend and touched that hometown friends have been so supportive, but I also don't want my bridesmaids or the groom's family to feel left-out.
I know I cannot be the only bride-to-be in a situation like this. How have others handled the bridal shower issue with long-distance bridesmaids and separated hometowns between the groom and bride?