My 4 bridesmaids are girls I've known since I was 5 or 6 years old, we're a tight-knit group of friends and our friendship has never wavered throughout the years despite distance. However, I'm lucky enough to have a number of close girlfriends. One of my friends from college called me the other day and was very upset that I didn't call to let her know she wasn't in the bridal party. She found out from a mutual friend. When my fiance and I decided on having only 4 friends each in the bridal party I felt bad about not being able to include everyone but I assumed they'd understand. When this friend called me she was really angry and upset. She even started crying. I'm one of the first to get married from all my friend groups and I didn't realize it was necessary to tell people they weren't in the bridal party. Is this a thing I should have done? This friend and I are still fairly close but we've been growing apart since college. I've made an effort to keep our friendship going but she's gotten worse and worse at returning my texts and calls so I've been less active about keeping in touch.
I apologized profusely on the phone to her. I had already invited her to go dress shopping with me and some other friends and I told her I want her to be a part of all the big events like the bachelorette party and bridal shower. I also explained how much I've valued her friendship over the years and that I simply chose the other girls because we've known each other for such a long time. I feel really bad about the situation and want to know if I should do more to apologize or if she's just overreacting.