So we are having a small wedding party that includes my aunt and SM as bridesmaids. It is in May and outside so I wanted us all to be in boots. I didn't make them pick out a certain pair or anything, I just said black boots. They could've even been the cheap Jcpenny boots for all I care. Well this week my aunt decided to tell me she wanted to wear heels. She pretty much refused to wear boots, and I even said she could wear mone since we are the same size. I'm kinda posses because I will be in boots and they won't and I'm worried they will sink into the grass. I told her this and she shrugged me off. She wants heels.
I finally said fine and told her we needed to find matching heels for her and my SM. She then says she's not doing that either because she has so many shoes. She also refuses to go strapless and won't put her hair up either. I love her to death but I'm still pretty posses because I'm not trying to get either of them to do anything crazy and she's changing things.
How do I let her know I want things a certain way while still being a laid back bride? Have any of you ever refused to wear somehung in a bridal party?