Hey all,
so I hardly know where to begin here so I apologize if this is a bit scattered. When my future husband and I began planning our wedding (8/27/16), we each had 8 friends/family members that we wanted to stand by our side as bridesmaids and groomsmen, plus two+ for ushers (that was to be determined yet). Two months ago I got my 8 bridesmaids together and we selected and ordered the dresses. Well my fiancé and one of his friends of many years, who was going to be a groomsmen, got dropped from the picture. So he went down to 7 groomsmen and is torn between picking two of his friends. Now, I have a solution in mind but it's somewhat nontraditional and from what I have read from previous posts can get some people very fired up... but hear me out and please offer positive feedback. My thought is to have 9 groomsmen, 8 bridesmaids, and 1 personal attendant. I know those last two words there can cause a spark but here are some things about that. 1. She would not be my b**ch. Between me, my 8 wonderful bridesmaids, the support of many friends and family, and a wonderful DJ who will coordinate which my equally wonderful photographer and videographer, I am set. We will be a wonderful team. 2. On the note of "personal attendant" being derogatory to some, I would love to have a different term for her, but what? 3. A lot of my friends (and all of my bridesmaids) don't live that close to me anymore. I am in a college town still trying to get that part of my life in order, so a lot of my friends are spread out. She is definitely the closest person I have here (emotionally and geographically) and I love her to pieces. 4. She wants to help with absolutely anything and everything she can help with. I can't turn that down. 5. Anytime I felt out other people's views on PAs it was always so negative, to the point where I actually felt guilty thinking about even thinking about asking my friend to fill that spot for me, only to find out that she wouldn't mind.
Basically, I am wondering if there is some smooth easy way I can work her into the picture while giving her a special title and figuring out what she will wear.
Sorry this is long, I am somewhat anxious about the whole thing and getting really sleepy. Plus, after reading some older posts I came across I presented with my defense a bit prematurely.
Thanks in advance,
Ash
P.S. I can already assume what any negative response may involve, so if you don't have positive feedback to give please don't waste your time.