Meal time shower invite wording question

twoleighs

1st: I am providing a meal.  I didn't want to make the subject a paragraph.   

I'm the MOH hosting the shower for my SIL.  I've never hosted a shower before, so I'm slightly anxious.  I opted to have it at a private room in a restaurant.  I am providing the food and the shower is at noon on a Saturday.  I don't think I've ever been to a meal-time shower so I'm not sure what to do and I'm sure I'm overthinking.  

Do I need to include on the invite that a meal is provided?  Or should the fact that the location is a well-known restaurant and is at noon be a tip-off that they're getting food?

I don't want anyone to think I'm going to make them pay or that I'm not feeding them...

TIA

OliveOilsMom

I don't think you need to worry about mentioning the meal.  As you said, you are having the shower at a restaurant at noon.  That scream meal-time to me! 

If you are truly worried, you can always have the info spread through word of mouth, but I don't think you need to do that.

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twoleighs said:

1st: I am providing a meal.  I didn't want to make the subject a paragraph.   

I'm the MOH hosting the shower for my SIL.  I've never hosted a shower before, so I'm slightly anxious.  I opted to have it at a private room in a restaurant.  I am providing the food and the shower is at noon on a Saturday.  I don't think I've ever been to a meal-time shower so I'm not sure what to do and I'm sure I'm overthinking.  

Do I need to include on the invite that a meal is provided?  Or should the fact that the location is a well-known restaurant and is at noon be a tip-off that they're getting food?

I don't want anyone to think I'm going to make them pay or that I'm not feeding them...

TIA

If I got invited to a restaurant shower at noon, I'd assume I was getting fed.  I might be pleasantly surprised when I get a burger and fries rather than sharing quesadillas and chicken skewers with the group, but I'd definitely assume you'd be feeding me.

missfrodo

Ditto PPs.  And try to let go of that anxiety; there is nothing you could do for a shower, short of accidentally poisoning the bride or guests, that could go really wrong.  As long as people have food and drink, they'll be happy to chat and watch the bride open presents.  Don't feel pressured by movies like "Bridesmaids," which portray showers as lavish and complicated events, because most of them aren't (unless you want it to be, which is fine).  And bonus, with a restaurant you won't have to clean up a mess afterward!  Sounds like you have everything taken care of.  

AddieCake

Restaurant at noon makes me assume food is provided. If I was unsure, I would just ask you when I call and RSVP.

MobKaz

In our family, every shower includes a meal, regardless of time.  We indicate it directly on the invitation in some way.  The invitation might say......
                                          Please join us for a Bridal shower
                                                        honoring
                                                       Mary Jones

                                              Sunday, March 20, 2016
                                                   12:00 Noon Brunch


We might also have the invitation say to join us for a bridal shower luncheon. 

OurWildKingdom

MobKaz said:

In our family, every shower includes a meal, regardless of time.  We indicate it directly on the invitation in some way.  The invitation might say......
                                          Please join us for a Bridal shower
                                                        honoring
                                                       Mary Jones

                                              Sunday, March 20, 2016
                                                   12:00 Noon Brunch


We might also have the invitation say to join us for a bridal shower luncheon. 

Good point -- you may want to specify whether it's brunch or lunch (if it matters to your guests).

SP29

I would assume food by the time and venue.

I might be pleasantly surprised by what is offered, but I would not assume I was paying for anything.

Jen4948

If I get an invitation for a shower at a restaurant, I'm going to assume that food will be served, and if the shower is scheduled for a mealtime, I'm going to assume that I'm getting a hosted meal.

That said, it would be nice if the invitation indicates whether or not the meal is brunch or lunch.

twoleighs

Thank you so much everyone!  I decided to leave it off. If someone brings up the shower in conversation, I might casually mention there will be food, but I'm probably overthinking that too. 

I did not mean to post and run off, I'm so sorry!