Can I take over the rehearsal dinner from FILs?

drunkenwitch

Jackie_Jormpjomp said:

If by "common sense" you mean "non-educated", then sure! Sure, make a non-educated argument and source it with a non-reputable website. That always makes a person look like they know what they're talking about @crowsgirl15

And why does your username ring some distant bell in my head?

crowsgirl15

Jackie_Jormpjomp said:

If by "common sense" you mean "non-educated", then sure! Sure, make a non-educated argument and source it with a non-reputable website. That always makes a person look like they know what they're talking about @crowsgirl15

I was so not going to get into this until you called me "non-educated", since my initial post was meant as mockery for your "easily googleable" crack anyway, but alright, let's go.

YOUR "Non- profit organizations whose entire purpose is to help consumers make Non-biased , educated purchases" doesn't say what you say it does. It is completely devoid of any information about the "sleep mileage" on a mattress. Drawing your own conclusion based on facts that aren't present doesn't seem to be a very educated opinion to me, now does it?

When I read that Consumer Reports article that you're using to justify being a rude guest to your in laws, it had this very important line in it "You’ve probably logged more than 30,000 hours in your bed, and your mattress has likely  become less comfortable and less supportive", which immediately implies that how much "sleep mileage" you've logged DOES matter when it comes to a mattress wearing out. So, if anything, this report you're pointing to as gospel and using to imply that you should be permitted to judge your in laws for not replacing a lesser-used mattress says the opposite of what you're saying: that "sleep mileage" does matter when it comes to when you replace a mattress.

And regardless of any sort of literature: I've also been sleeping on mattresses for 30 years, and I can tell you from empirical evidence that the mattress I sleep on nightly wears out faster than my guest mattress that maybe gets 2 nights of use a month.

Not to mention, you seem to be ignoring the most important piece of all of this: it's none of your effing business if your in laws want to put a worn out, dilapidated, falling apart mattress in their guest room. If you don't want to sleep on it, stay in a hotel. The fact that you're choosing to point that out says a lot more about you than it does about them.

crowsgirl15

drunkenwitch said:

Jackie_Jormpjomp said:

If by "common sense" you mean "non-educated", then sure! Sure, make a non-educated argument and source it with a non-reputable website. That always makes a person look like they know what they're talking about @crowsgirl15

And why does your username ring some distant bell in my head?

Check the post history. I figured it out from there.

drunkenwitch

crowsgirl15 said:

drunkenwitch said:

Jackie_Jormpjomp said:

If by "common sense" you mean "non-educated", then sure! Sure, make a non-educated argument and source it with a non-reputable website. That always makes a person look like they know what they're talking about @crowsgirl15

And why does your username ring some distant bell in my head?

Check the post history. I figured it out from there.

Ah, now I remember 

glasgowtolondon

I wish she'd keep the same name so we can all know that the probability of butthurt ensuing will be high before we even open the thread.

bleve0821

We have 30 guests coming to our RD, and we're not sending out invitations.  For us, word of mouth is fine.  The parents and siblings, wedding party and their SOs already know they're invited.  Long story, but when we emailed our bridal party the tentative timeline a month ago I made damn sure the bridal party and siblings knew their SOs (and in some cases children) were invited to the RD.  We're having it at a local brew pub, and we'd have been equally happy to have it in a local park and catered by Chick-Fil-A.  For weather-related reasons, we opted not to do that.

FILs volunteered to host the RD (they said host, and I did not presume to think they meant plan), so they gave us a price point, I did the research and found a number of places well within that budget a short distance from the venue, they narrowed the list down to two, FI and I picked the place, they picked the menu, and everyone's happy.  It wasn't a big production.  Took all of two days.

Also, I slept on the same mattress for 20 years, from the time I graduated from the crib til the day I graduated from college.  My parents still have it, and I still sleep on when I go home sometimes.  It's very comfortable.

kvruns

KnickerGold

AtomicBlonde said:

We have 30 guests coming to our RD, and we're not sending out invitations.  For us, word of mouth is fine.  The parents and siblings, wedding party and their SOs already know they're invited.  Long story, but when we emailed our bridal party the tentative timeline a month ago I made damn sure the bridal party and siblings knew their SOs (and in some cases children) were invited to the RD.  We're having it at a local brew pub, and we'd have been equally happy to have it in a local park and catered by Chick-Fil-A.  For weather-related reasons, we opted not to do that.

FILs volunteered to host the RD (they said host, and I did not presume to think they meant plan), so they gave us a price point, I did the research and found a number of places well within that budget a short distance from the venue, they narrowed the list down to two, FI and I picked the place, they picked the menu, and everyone's happy.  It wasn't a big production.  Took all of two days.

Also, I slept on the same mattress for 20 years, from the time I graduated from the crib til the day I graduated from college.  My parents still have it, and I still sleep on when I go home sometimes.  It's very comfortable.

Interesting... maybe I could approach it this way with FILs- 'happy to (help) plan the RD if you're still interested in hosting, but are unable to take the time to plan it'- seems like it might be a good middle ground. I'll have to run that past FI... 

I have no opinion on mattresses other than that FI and I bought a $3400 one last year and it is a DREAMMMMM. I thought it was a total waste- nope. Best purchase ever.

photokitty

The local mattress company runs commercials saying "replace after 8." I'm sure that's just bc they are reputable and know when a mattress "expires," not bc they want to sell more mattresses...sounds logical, at least by your standards.

ScottishSarah

My goodness you girls spend a lot on your mattresses!  My was only £900 and that was near the top end at the shop I went to.

@glasgowtolondonOn another note I heard the Mattress King of New Jersey is off the market!  I wonder who his new bride is and if she's on here?  So exciting!  

100yroldblinddog

ScottishSarah said:

My goodness you girls spend a lot on your mattresses!  My was only £900 and that was near the top end at the shop I went to.

@glasgowtolondonOn another note I heard the Mattress King of New Jersey is off the market!  I wonder who his new bride is and if she's on here?  So exciting!  

I spent a mere $1400 on my mattress, but now that I know that there's a Mattress King of New Jersey and he's not quite spoken for, I'm making my move. Sorry, FI - this guy has access to fancier mattresses than I've ever dreamed of.

drunkenwitch

Crap, that reminds me, we do need a new mattress. It has to get in line behind the table, the screen door and the deep freeze.

ScottishSarah

100yroldblinddog said:

ScottishSarah said:

My goodness you girls spend a lot on your mattresses!  My was only £900 and that was near the top end at the shop I went to.

@glasgowtolondonOn another note I heard the Mattress King of New Jersey is off the market!  I wonder who his new bride is and if she's on here?  So exciting!  

I spent a mere $1400 on my mattress, but now that I know that there's a Mattress King of New Jersey and he's not quite spoken for, I'm making my move. Sorry, FI - this guy has access to fancier mattresses than I've ever dreamed of.

I was there first bitch. (well second).

One day all this will be mine!

lovesclimbing

Ooh, speaking of mattresses and that Mattress King stuff, there's this place here in Alaska called the Mattress Ranch. It has several branches around the state. The locations look like barns and have animal cut outs. The TV ads have this really old guy doing weird dancing and singing the theme song. 

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=eldbPUqhFZk

TNDancer

AtomicBlonde said:

Also, I slept on the same mattress for 20 years, from the time I graduated from the crib til the day I graduated from college.  My parents still have it, and I still sleep on when I go home sometimes.  It's very comfortable.

yup. My mattress was 20+ before I moved in with H and bought a new one

MesmrEwe

TNDancer said:

AtomicBlonde said:

Also, I slept on the same mattress for 20 years, from the time I graduated from the crib til the day I graduated from college.  My parents still have it, and I still sleep on when I go home sometimes.  It's very comfortable.

yup. My mattress was 20+ before I moved in with H and bought a new one

I swear the mattress I slept on in college (dorms) was going on 30...  The one in my old bedroom at my parents was at least that when they replaced it - with one so bad even DH (who sleeps for the night wherever he dozes off) complains about it to the point we offered to pay to replace it - which got the "her house her choice, just drop it" eventually because of what my Mom spent on the thing ("but it had the most coils available!")...

MandyMost

Jackie_Jormpjomp said:

Well, no. If you'd read the article you'd understand that mattresses last ten years. This isn't based on how many times per use, it's just common sense.

I'm just fascinated by this concept! So does the 10-year clock start ticking as soon as the mattress is manufactured? I assume a lot of mattresses sit in a warehouse for years, so that means it has a shorter life after you buy it? I've never considered trying to buy a 2016 mattress instead of a 2015 mattress, for example, but I guess it matters by this logic!

And obviously, as you stated, all consumer goods just wear out on their own, not based on use. You don't buy a new car because the mileage is way up there, you buy it simply because it's old, even if it only has 10,000 miles on it. Same difference. That mattress, sitting alone in a room and never being slept on, clearly just starts to degrade at a regular rate and becomes unsleepable at a magic 10 years. 

I used to have an ~50-year-old couch. It was the couch in my great aunt's "formal living room" for most of her life, and no one was ever allowed in that room to sit on it! It felt like a new couch to me, and I used it for about 10 years as my daily couch. That really wore it out. So, 50 years of non-use and it was like new, but 10 years of daily use and it wore out. I'm sure that was just a coincidence. 

banana468

As long as the mattress is well-maintained I wouldn't care.  My parents took 30 years to replace their mattress and I'm sure I slept on mattresses that were at least 20 years old.   

crowsgirl15

MandyMost said:

Jackie_Jormpjomp said:

Well, no. If you'd read the article you'd understand that mattresses last ten years. This isn't based on how many times per use, it's just common sense.

I'm just fascinated by this concept! So does the 10-year clock start ticking as soon as the mattress is manufactured? I assume a lot of mattresses sit in a warehouse for years, so that means it has a shorter life after you buy it? I've never considered trying to buy a 2016 mattress instead of a 2015 mattress, for example, but I guess it matters by this logic!

And obviously, as you stated, all consumer goods just wear out on their own, not based on use. You don't buy a new car because the mileage is way up there, you buy it simply because it's old, even if it only has 10,000 miles on it. Same difference. That mattress, sitting alone in a room and never being slept on, clearly just starts to degrade at a regular rate and becomes unsleepable at a magic 10 years. 

I used to have an ~50-year-old couch. It was the couch in my great aunt's "formal living room" for most of her life, and no one was ever allowed in that room to sit on it! It felt like a new couch to me, and I used it for about 10 years as my daily couch. That really wore it out. So, 50 years of non-use and it was like new, but 10 years of daily use and it wore out. I'm sure that was just a coincidence. 

Nah, there are a million of easily googled sources that say you're 150% WRONG. GOOGLE IT!!!! Google knows!!!

hyechica81

i had a mattress from the time i was a toddler. (i didn't have a special toddler bed this was the 8os i slept in a twin size bed)  my mattress lasted me till high school until it started giving out. some can last longer heck my grandma's spare mattress was over 30 years old and still in mint condition ( not many people slept on it