Dear Prudence,
My husband and I are both freelancers in creative fields of
work and do well financially. We save a little more now that we’re older
and we never want for anything. My husband has always made more money
more consistently than I do, and with his salary, we are more than
comfortable. I am in a field that pays generously but sporadically. Last
night, I picked a fight I probably shouldn’t have—it doesn’t matter
what it was about. At one point I said, “My feelings are hurt when you
talk to me like this.” And he responded with, “Your feelings don’t
matter, because I pay for everything.” I was dumbfounded. We went to bed
angry, and, honestly, I’m so shocked these words came out of his mouth
that I don’t even think I can look at him. What can I do or say here?
Should I just keep my mouth shut? Do I have any ground in which to
stand—because, as he said, right now, he is paying for most things. I feel like a 1950s housewife all of a sudden and am questioning everything about my marriage.