Dear Prudence,
We recently upgraded our old station wagon to a brand new car. My stepson, the eldest, is in community college, so we gave him the car. This turned out to be a big mistake. He celebrated by getting drunk with his friends and backing the car into a barn. He lost his license for six months and was sentenced to community service, while we had to pay damages. The car was still serviceable, so we gave it to my daughter, who will be attending college across the state in the fall. Now they are fighting over who gets the car. My husband is soft on his son (and doesn’t want to be bugged for rides), but I don’t see why my daughter should be punished for that. We want you to be the deciding factor. What do you think?