So a family wedding has recently been changed from a big event of about 180 guests to just immediate family. People had originally been asked to be bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, etc. Now that has all been cancelled along with the reception venue and changed to ceremony and dinner with just immediate family. That part is all good.
However, there were also plans in the works for a bachelorette party along with a few bridal showers. Now, I'm thinking those are cancelled as well because you don't invite people to a party for an event when they're not being invited to the event. But it's looking like people still want to throw showers, etc.
I was supposed to help host these events, but I'm not comfortable inviting people to come and celebrate when they won't be invited to the actual event we're celebrating. How do I handle this? Just say I don't want to help host? I'd still like to help with a small event, just only invite the appropriate people (those invited to the wedding).
How do I deal with all of the "But people want to celebrate" comments? Would love some ideas!