Blank number of guests invite

PaperTigersx

Oh man. I feel like I post way too much sometimes. Sorry for being so clueless!

I couldn't find an answer on other posts, so I hope this hasn't been answered. 

This isn't related to my wedding. 

I just got a wedding invitation for a friend's wedding. It was addressed only to me and she knows about FI and has met him. 

Her invite has a line with a blank "___ total number of guests" but only one line for meal choice. 

Does this mean I can assume both FI and I are invited? I don't want to ask her quite yet as I don't know if we can attend (it's really far away and we've been having some financial challenges.) 

It just seemed weird that she would only address it to me and I don't want to overstep. I wouldn't go if FI was not able to come tho as its going to require an overnight stay. 

ernursej

I think it is best to just ask. "Hi Sally this is PaperTigersx. I'm just wanting to clarify if the invite to your wedding is just for me or does it include FI? Thanks!" Get to the point and then with that information you can decide when the time comes to RSVP what you want to do.

ScottishSarah

Difficult one!  Tbh if she really just wanted only you wouldn't she just hand write 1 in the number of guests space?  

AddieCake

Ask her.

ILoveBeachMusic

Ask her. I recently had a similar situation (not with a SO but a family member). I texted the groom and asked. He apologized and said of course X was invited.

PaperTigersx

Okay. So it won't be rude if I ask about him and then don't end up going? The likelyhood is that we can't. But I'm going to try to save up some money. 

AddieCake

No, it won't be rude to clarify and then not go if you can't. Asking doesn't obligate you to attend.  If you can't go, you can't go. 

DrillSergeantCat

PaperTigersx said:

Okay. So it won't be rude if I ask about him and then don't end up going? The likelyhood is that we can't. But I'm going to try to save up some money. 

Not rude at all. It was rude of her to leave him off the invitation. 

MobKaz

PaperTigersx said:

Okay. So it won't be rude if I ask about him and then don't end up going? The likelyhood is that we can't. But I'm going to try to save up some money. 

I tend to be a bit more "firm" when it comes to sticky situations.  One reason is because if my FI were to be excluded, I would not want to waste any further time listening to excuses from the bride.  I would not "ask" if the invitation included FI.  I would call and say, "WE are still unsure whether we can attend, but I wanted to clarify and make sure that the invitation was meant for me and FI". 

If she says he is not included, I would say a quick "Thanks for the information", quickly mark "decline" on the invitation, and toss it in the mail. 

SP29

Nope, not rude to ask, and it doesn't obligate you to accept.

The point of an invitation is to provide information. In this case, the host has left out important information. More than fine to clarify. "Hi Friend. We received your wedding invitation. I would to clarify if FI is invited as well as only I was listed on the invitation". Whatever she responds with, you say thanks and can end the conversation without giving a yes or no.

Jen4948

When you have an ambiguous situation like this, the only course of action is to ask. It's not rude. You don't have enough information to make a decision about accepting or declining based on what you received.

mandypants90

Not rude at all to ask. Technically, who is invited is who it's addressed to. However, it's not cool to leave it ambiguous like that. I would just ask, like other PPs have said "Hi Friend! I got your invitation; I just wanted to clarify with you if my FI is invited as well". If after asking, they straight up ask if you're coming, I would just say "I have some details to work out before I can answer you for sure. My RSVP will be in the mail soon."