Hi All!
I've lurked on here for a while now and was hoping for some sympathy or advice on how to handle a situation.
My boyfriend has been friends with a guys for a couple years now and we casually hang out every few months. He got engaged about a year ago and unprompted told my bf that we would definitely be invited to the wedding. We said awesome and that we we really excited for him.
A couple months go by and we are out to dinner. Again, unprompted, he says that he has a save the date for us at his place and will drop it off soon. He tells us the date of the wedding and has me put it in my calendar.
About a month before the wedding, we still have not seen a save the date, so we figure that they had to make cuts to the guest list. No big deal, these things happen. My bf decides to send him a text that says something to that effect and says congrats and wants to meet up for a beer or something when they get back from their honeymoon.
Dude responds to the text and says that of course we are invited and would be super bummed if we couldn't make it.
The wedding is now two weeks away and we still have not received an actual invitation, so I have no idea when the ceremony is or where they are registered.
Yesterday dude calls up my bf and asks him to be a GROOMSMAN. This is so out of left field! If my bf was close enough of a friend for that, you would think that we would rate at least an official invite if not an actual save the date. I'm so confused by his behavior.
My advice to my bf was to decline being a groomsman, (swinging a tux rental at this short of notice sucks and he feels like the friend might have just asked cause someone else dropped out) but to say that we would still like to attend as guests.
This whole thing has been so frustrating for me and my poor bf has no idea what is going on with his friend. Do you guys have any advice on how to handle all this?