What's your theme?

NBSquared2017

Why does everyone keep asking what our theme is? I'm not planning a high school prom, I'm planning our wedding. 

I think I'll respond casino night the next time I'm asked. 

sparklepants41

Seriously! 

Tell them the theme is wedding.

Or Hedonism. Just for the faces they'll make.

charlotte989875

Getting married. 

Or polygamy, and ask whose interested in being your sister wives. Say you get a discount on your venue. 

But seriously I hated this question. 

OurWildKingdom

charlotte989875 said:

Getting married. 

Or polygamy, and ask whose interested in being your sister wives. Say you get a discount on your venue. 

But seriously I hated this question. 

I'm at my desk and trying my utmost not to laugh out loud.

ShesSoCold

My theme was food.

southernbelle0915

"DISNEY PRINCESSES obvi - I've dreamed of my perfect prince and Disney wedding since I was a little girl. So since I haven't matured in my tastes at all (plus my daddy said I'm still daddy's princess *wink*), I want to pretend to be a 16 year old who gives up everything in her life and changes herself for an older stranger or a girl who only gets noticed because she goes from rags to riches. #goals. It also seems appropriate to celebrate real, mature love by decorating everything in cartoons and fairytales."

NBSquared2017

southernbelle0915 said:

"DISNEY PRINCESSES obvi - I've dreamed of my perfect prince and Disney wedding since I was a little girl. So since I haven't matured in my tastes at all (plus my daddy said I'm still daddy's princess *wink*), I want to pretend to be a 16 year old who gives up everything in her life and changes herself for an older stranger or a girl who only gets noticed because she goes from rags to riches. #goals. It also seems appropriate to celebrate real, mature love by decorating everything in cartoons and fairytales."

One can only hope I'll have a horse and carriage on my "special day"

OurWildKingdom

NBSquared2017 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

"DISNEY PRINCESSES obvi - I've dreamed of my perfect prince and Disney wedding since I was a little girl. So since I haven't matured in my tastes at all (plus my daddy said I'm still daddy's princess *wink*), I want to pretend to be a 16 year old who gives up everything in her life and changes herself for an older stranger or a girl who only gets noticed because she goes from rags to riches. #goals. It also seems appropriate to celebrate real, mature love by decorating everything in cartoons and fairytales."

One can only hope I'll have a horse and carriage on my "special day"

I was a temp at a mid-range hotel and got asked once about accommodations for a horse and carriage.

princessbuttercup09

charlotte989875 said:

Getting married. 

Or polygamy, and ask whose interested in being your sister wives. Say you get a discount on your venue. 

But seriously I hated this question. 

My cousin and I are getting married a month apart so we did a joint Bachelorette party last weekend. We told everyone it's a joint wedding and/or we are going to be sister wives. It was pretty amusing. 
I hate the theme question. I've been saying everyone has fun and eats great food is our theme. 

OurWildKingdom

If one must have a Disney Princess theme, how about a cool one like Mulan, Merida, or Pocahontas?

OurWildKingdom

DrillSergeantCat

NBSquared2017 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

"DISNEY PRINCESSES obvi - I've dreamed of my perfect prince and Disney wedding since I was a little girl. So since I haven't matured in my tastes at all (plus my daddy said I'm still daddy's princess *wink*), I want to pretend to be a 16 year old who gives up everything in her life and changes herself for an older stranger or a girl who only gets noticed because she goes from rags to riches. #goals. It also seems appropriate to celebrate real, mature love by decorating everything in cartoons and fairytales."

One can only hope I'll have a horse and carriage on my "special day"

My venue offers this at their smaller ceremony spot. We chose the larger spot so we could ride the train.

SaintPaulGal

Or even worse, in my personal opinion--being told what your "theme" is!  

I have coworkers who have been insisting on discussion what wedding theme I will be choosing since I first got engaged.  As it turns out, my partner and I share a pretty strong design aesthetic of sort of vintage urban industrial.  Think Restoration Hardware.  Sorry if it sounds dickish or pretentious, but we since we were each little kids we were those weirdos buying an antique book for its gorgeous leather spine or decorating our bedrooms with old typewriters.  It just happens that it is super popular now, which means it's easy to find stuff we like.  (Our venue is a stunning crumbling brick warehouse that happens to be one of the hottest event spaces in town.)

So long story short...the people at work have decided that my "wedding theme" is "steampunk" because steampunk uses funky adaptations of old stuff for inspiration and I am using funky old stuff for inspiration.  Umm...no.  There is no theme.  My wedding is not a steampunk pageant.  No corsets or silly hats or 500 million clocks.  Just the mildly vintage-y, industrial-y stuff we like to look at.

bohobrideCA

SaintPaulGal said:

Or even worse, in my personal opinion--being told what your "theme" is!  

I have coworkers who have been insisting on discussion what wedding theme I will be choosing since I first got engaged.  As it turns out, my partner and I share a pretty strong design aesthetic of sort of vintage urban industrial.  Think Restoration Hardware.  Sorry if it sounds dickish or pretentious, but we since we were each little kids we were those weirdos buying an antique book for its gorgeous leather spine or decorating our bedrooms with old typewriters.  It just happens that it is super popular now, which means it's easy to find stuff we like.  (Our venue is a stunning crumbling brick warehouse that happens to be one of the hottest event spaces in town.)

So long story short...the people at work have decided that my "wedding theme" is "steampunk" because steampunk uses funky adaptations of old stuff for inspiration and I am using funky old stuff for inspiration.  Umm...no.  There is no theme.  My wedding is not a steampunk pageant.  No corsets or silly hats or 500 million clocks.  Just the mildly vintage-y, industrial-y stuff we like to look at.

Yeah, I'm getting married on what's technically a tomato farm with a 150 year old house we're renting for the weekend. I chose it because the property is gorgeous (you can't tell it's a farm, lots of palm trees, etc) and it's the only wedding venue that has a house we can stay at all weekend. We did NOT choose it because we wanted a "rustic chic" theme wedding but that's what everyone keeps insisting it is. I don't want decor with chipped paint or anything that has to do with a barn.

Someone asked FI what our wedding theme was and he said "1960's strip club in a small town in Eastern Europe" so that's what I tell people who ask now. 

NBSquared2017

bohobrideCA said:

SaintPaulGal said:

Or even worse, in my personal opinion--being told what your "theme" is!  

I have coworkers who have been insisting on discussion what wedding theme I will be choosing since I first got engaged.  As it turns out, my partner and I share a pretty strong design aesthetic of sort of vintage urban industrial.  Think Restoration Hardware.  Sorry if it sounds dickish or pretentious, but we since we were each little kids we were those weirdos buying an antique book for its gorgeous leather spine or decorating our bedrooms with old typewriters.  It just happens that it is super popular now, which means it's easy to find stuff we like.  (Our venue is a stunning crumbling brick warehouse that happens to be one of the hottest event spaces in town.)

So long story short...the people at work have decided that my "wedding theme" is "steampunk" because steampunk uses funky adaptations of old stuff for inspiration and I am using funky old stuff for inspiration.  Umm...no.  There is no theme.  My wedding is not a steampunk pageant.  No corsets or silly hats or 500 million clocks.  Just the mildly vintage-y, industrial-y stuff we like to look at.

Yeah, I'm getting married on what's technically a tomato farm with a 150 year old house we're renting for the weekend. I chose it because the property is gorgeous (you can't tell it's a farm, lots of palm trees, etc) and it's the only wedding venue that has a house we can stay at all weekend. We did NOT choose it because we wanted a "rustic chic" theme wedding but that's what everyone keeps insisting it is. I don't want decor with chipped paint or anything that has to do with a barn.

Someone asked FI what our wedding theme was and he said "1960's strip club in a small town in Eastern Europe" so that's what I tell people who ask now. 

You mean no burlap, lace, mason jars or Edison lights? Whatever will you do?

 (No offense to anyone who loves all of those things, but I'm sick of it being crammed down my throat) 

kimmiinthemitten

Admittedly, I've given up on fighting this battle and just say Gatsby-ish.  Our building is a 1920's restored bank and is very art deco.  I have chosen the decor based on what compliments the building best, so it's easier just to make up an answer than try and tell people how silly it is.

And yes Gastby-ish is made up and not a thing, which is part of the point.

bleve0821

Beaches.  How do I love sea?  Let me count the waves...

TrixieJess

kimmiinthemitten said:

Admittedly, I've given up on fighting this battle and just say Gatsby-ish.  Our building is a 1920's restored bank and is very art deco.  I have chosen the decor based on what compliments the building best, so it's easier just to make up an answer than try and tell people how silly it is.

And yes Gastby-ish is made up and not a thing, which is part of the point.

Gastby-ish? So no one is going to die?

charlotte989875

TrixieJess said:

kimmiinthemitten said:

Admittedly, I've given up on fighting this battle and just say Gatsby-ish.  Our building is a 1920's restored bank and is very art deco.  I have chosen the decor based on what compliments the building best, so it's easier just to make up an answer than try and tell people how silly it is.

And yes Gastby-ish is made up and not a thing, which is part of the point.

Gastby-ish? So no one is going to die?

Gatsby-light; all the fun parties and dresses without the infidelity and murder. 

thisismynickname2

@kimmiinthemitten
I was in the same boat as the place I had my wedding at was also an art deco venue. I went with it- got an art deco-ish dress (according to my mother, what do I know), wore a headpiece like Cary Mulligan's in the recent Gatsby movie, and had my programs in art deco font and design. That was really it though. 
But we also threw in a dash of travel elements (vintage suitcase for cards) because we love to travel, so there's that. 

@southernbelle0915
The scary thing about your princess joke is that those women really exist. At least in the TLC TV world. I always throw up in my mouth a little when watching those shows. Can't turn away though! 

NBSquared2017

thisismynickname said:

@kimmiinthemitten
I was in the same boat as the place I had my wedding at was also an art deco venue. I went with it- got an art deco-ish dress (according to my mother, what do I know), wore a headpiece like Cary Mulligan's in the recent Gatsby movie, and had my programs in art deco font and design. That was really it though. 
But we also threw in a dash of travel elements (vintage suitcase for cards) because we love to travel, so there's that. 

@southernbelle0915
The scary thing about your princess joke is that those women really exist. At least in the TLC TV world. I always throw up in my mouth a little when watching those shows. Can't turn away though! 

***SIB***

My FI loves to watch TLC, mainly because of the trainwrecks. I have a hard time believing there are women who actually believe that it's okay to act like that on television. I don't care if you are getting all the attention and someone is giving you a damn honeymoon. 

Also, people think it's funny to ask of I am being a bridezilla. Yeah, no. 

kimmiinthemitten

charlotte989875 said:

TrixieJess said:

Gastby-ish? So no one is going to die?

Gatsby-light; all the fun parties and dresses without the infidelity and murder. 

It's in an up and coming metro area that used to be a bit dangerous in the residential parts so death is TBD.

To me, it literally means just complimenting the venue and using black and gold sequins.  My cousins girlfriend manages a vintage resale shop and asked if she could wear a flapper dress; sure rock it out!  I don't really care what people think Gatsby-ish means, it just been successful at ending the conversation pretty quickly.  I want a nice wedding, of course, but I don't give a shit what type of napkins we have or what flowers are used.  Here's the pallette and go.

I've worked other events there for my caterer and every single time they had the tall vases with feathers.  I'm not doing all that jazz.  Almost every single one time the client has they encourage us to wear headbands etc, if we choose too.

@thisismynickname my caterer has an old suitcase they said I could use for the cards.  I was like sure!

MCmeow

Never understood how to answer this either... romantically colored garden, with watercolor and calligraphy stuff? English garden... With stuff we like. That's our theme x_x?

our venue also has a Chinese scholar garden that we're using for cocktail hour. My fiancé is Chinese. So people have actually asked if we're going to have an Asian theme -_- cultures aren't themes dudes.

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NBSquared2017 said:

Also, people think it's funny to ask of I am being a bridezilla. Yeah, no. 

I hate that joke. "Oh, you have a spreadsheet and a to-do list for this wedding? You must be a bridezilla! Hahaha". When did being organized equal bridezilla? It's not a funny joke. 

MCmeow

Ironring said:

NBSquared2017 said:

Also, people think it's funny to ask of I am being a bridezilla. Yeah, no. 

I hate that joke. "Oh, you have a spreadsheet and a to-do list for this wedding? You must be a bridezilla! Hahaha". When did being organized equal bridezilla? It's not a funny joke. 

Yeah I'm the same way. Type A personality, I have everything in charts on Evernote plus a binder and spreadsheets because I must be organized or it feels wrong. Bridezillas aren't organized (from what I've seen) and they're bridezillas because they treat people they love Iike crap for their one pretty-princess day.

NBSquared2017

MCmeow said:

Ironring said:

NBSquared2017 said:

Also, people think it's funny to ask of I am being a bridezilla. Yeah, no. 

I hate that joke. "Oh, you have a spreadsheet and a to-do list for this wedding? You must be a bridezilla! Hahaha". When did being organized equal bridezilla? It's not a funny joke. 

Yeah I'm the same way. Type A personality, I have everything in charts on Evernote plus a binder and spreadsheets because I must be organized or it feels wrong. Bridezillas aren't organized (from what I've seen) and they're bridezillas because they treat people they love Iike crap for their one pretty-princess day.

MCmeow said:

Ironring said:

NBSquared2017 said:

Also, people think it's funny to ask of I am being a bridezilla. Yeah, no. 

I hate that joke. "Oh, you have a spreadsheet and a to-do list for this wedding? You must be a bridezilla! Hahaha". When did being organized equal bridezilla? It's not a funny joke. 

Yeah I'm the same way. Type A personality, I have everything in charts on Evernote plus a binder and spreadsheets because I must be organized or it feels wrong. Bridezillas aren't organized (from what I've seen) and they're bridezillas because they treat people they love Iike crap for their one pretty-princess day.

If we are organized, we are Bridezilla's, if the wedding is on the hot mess express people rip us to shreds (but never to our faces). 

Damned if we do, damned if we don't. Thank goodness for TK and the ability to vent!

NBSquared2017

MCmeow said:

Never understood how to answer this either... romantically colored garden, with watercolor and calligraphy stuff? English garden... With stuff we like. That's our theme x_x?

our venue also has a Chinese scholar garden that we're using for cocktail hour. My fiancé is Chinese. So people have actually asked if we're going to have an Asian theme -_- cultures aren't themes dudes.

How adorably racist! That reminds me of the time FI had a co-worker tell him was excited that our wedding is not going to be ghetto. Wait, what?

Even though FI said the guy said he followed up with the fact that he was kidding, it's still super rude! 1) because he assumes AA are going to have ghetto tendencies and 2) because he assumed he was invited! 

ETA: numbers instead of letters because I made smilies by mistake. 

MCmeow

NBSquared2017 said:

MCmeow said:

Never understood how to answer this either... romantically colored garden, with watercolor and calligraphy stuff? English garden... With stuff we like. That's our theme x_x?

our venue also has a Chinese scholar garden that we're using for cocktail hour. My fiancé is Chinese. So people have actually asked if we're going to have an Asian theme -_- cultures aren't themes dudes.

How adorably racist! That reminds me of the time FI had a co-worker tell him was excited that our wedding is not going to be ghetto. Wait, what?

Even though FI said the guy said he followed up with the fact that he was kidding, it's still super rude! 1) because he assumes AA are going to have ghetto tendencies and 2) because he assumed he was invited! 

ETA: numbers instead of letters because I made smilies by mistake. 

Ugh I hate that people still use that when referring to Black people but I'm also not surprised... 

AddieCake

Meh. Theme questions/ideas don't bother me. We had a sort of "theme" with our river rocks. I don't think it looked like a prom. 

OurWildKingdom

Ironring said:

NBSquared2017 said:

Also, people think it's funny to ask of I am being a bridezilla. Yeah, no. 

I hate that joke. "Oh, you have a spreadsheet and a to-do list for this wedding? You must be a bridezilla! Hahaha". When did being organized equal bridezilla? It's not a funny joke. 

I have a Google drive folder and several spreadsheets because I have ADHD and need to keep everything organized!

thisismynickname2

The organized people are often not the bride/groomzillas. It's often the non-organized that freak out, expect others to do stuff for them, and act zilla-ish. 

Making some sweeping generalizations of course; one can be highly organized and an entitled 'zilla. But it seems like the poor treatment usually comes from people who have no idea what they're doing.  Like the poster over on E who just lost a friend- who doesn't plan their hair appointment until 5 days beforehand?

Organizing keeps us sane, I hope! 

Anyway, I wish people would replace the word "theme" with the question, "What kind of look are you going for?" So for my friend's winery wedding, the theme's not wine (because duh), but she incorporated richly-colored flowers and linens into the space along with some woodsy elements. But I equally despise the question, "What are your colors?"