Dear Prudence,
I consider myself a rather open-minded person. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years and it was never a big deal to me that he watches porn. He finds it sexy, and nothing about it makes me jealous. Within the last year or so, he started watching a streaming website where women put on live shows and accept tips from viewers. We’ve watched it together a few times and I thought it was interesting. I didn’t have a problem with this type of porn either, although when we talked about it, I said that I was not comfortable with his tipping the women or chatting with them personally. He agreed.
A few weeks ago, I saw him type something in the chat box while watching a live show. He did this within view of me and wasn’t trying to hide anything. I called him out on it and said that it bothered me. He reacted badly and said that he was only responding to another person in the chat room. Later, he agreed that he wouldn’t chat again but he said that he didn’t understand why. I am still bothered by this and I’m not sure if I believe him. I don’t like feeling jealous. What should I do?