Registering but don't really need gifts

Knottie1443378977

My fiance and I have done a very small registry on amazon.com for those who really want to get us a gift. However we don't really need anything and just prefer to see our families.

I know not to talk about gifts on the formal invitation but I was just going to put something on our website like:
"While your presence at our wedding is the only gift we ask for, we have registered for a few things just in case."

Is that rude? Of course gifts are always appreciated!

OliveOilsMom

Knottie1443378977 said:

My fiance and I have done a very small registry on amazon.com for those who really want to get us a gift. However we don't really need anything and just prefer to see our families.

I know not to talk about gifts on the formal invitation but I was just going to put something on our website like:
"While your presence at our wedding is the only gift we ask for, we have registered for a few things just in case."

Is that rude? Of course gifts are always appreciated!

Yes.  It is rude as it seems like you were anticipating gifts.  If you truly don't want any gifts, then you shouldn't have registered at all.  Then if anyone asks about gifts, you just say you haven't registered anywhere because there is nothing that you need.  You can also let your parents and WP know, so again, if anyone asks them, they can relay that there is nothing that you need nor want, other than them attending the wedding.

If you do not want or need gifts, know that you also should not be having a shower hosted in your honor, as that is a gift giving occasion.

ei34

Knottie1443378977 said:

My fiance and I have done a very small registry on amazon.com for those who really want to get us a gift. However we don't really need anything and just prefer to see our families.

I know not to talk about gifts on the formal invitation but I was just going to put something on our website like:
"While your presence at our wedding is the only gift we ask for, we have registered for a few things just in case."

Is that rude? Of course gifts are always appreciated!

Yes, of course they are.  And your guests know this. If you really want your registry link of your website, just have it there without your suggested text. But really, word of mouth is the best way to spread the news about your registry (whatever its size). 

downtondiva

If you're going to have anything about gifts on your website, it should just be a link to the registry without any further comment. 

southernbelle0915

Yes, mentioning gifts in any context is against etiquette. The reason is because mentioning gifts in any way (even to say "don't") is considered the same as presuming you would receive them (which is considered rude). Just traditional etiquette.

Totally fine to just have a small registry. Spread the word via word of mouth - when people ask you (they will) "there's nothing on your registry" or "where are you registered" you can say "oh we don't need anything right now - we are saving up money for XYZ." People get it.

Also, if you don't register for physical gifts (or enough gifts), a wedding shower is out as wedding showers are for physical presents. It's extremely tacky to have a cash or gift card shower.

kvruns

we had a very small registry because friends really wanted to throw a shower and mentioned a gift card shower which I said no. So we picked some fun things that would be nice to have. I'd say about 1/2 the people at the shower got something from the registry and the other 1/2 did a gift card or something else entirely.

Nothing was said about a registry for the actual wedding and we received 1 gift, that was it, everything else was cash or gift card. People figure it out. 

scrunchythief

The people who really care about getting you a physical gift from a registry will find it or ask you.  We weren't super keen on a registry, but so many guests asked us about one that we made it.  We just put the links on our website.

Jen4948

Knottie1443378977 said:

My fiance and I have done a very small registry on amazon.com for those who really want to get us a gift. However we don't really need anything and just prefer to see our families.

I know not to talk about gifts on the formal invitation but I was just going to put something on our website like:
"While your presence at our wedding is the only gift we ask for, we have registered for a few things just in case."

Is that rude? Of course gifts are always appreciated!

Yes. Whether or not anyone gives you gifts, and their nature, are their decisions to make - not yours. Any message in an invitation or on a website that you want or don't want any type of gift, without being directly asked first, is an attempt to pre-empt those decisions. It's rude.

It also won't make a difference, because if people want to give you something that's not on your registry, they'll do so regardless of whether or not you put any kind of message about it on your website.