So FI and I have been working diligently on this wedding of ours for the past 8 (going on 9) months and we are 51 days out from the big day! Venue, dress, suit, bridal party, photographer, dj, caterer, florist, guest gifts, wedding party gifts, trolley for WP, timeline, etc etc etc etc on and on and on. Still have a couple of things we need to do but I've been good about keeping up with my spreadsheet on month to month things to do. Everything matches, everything is coordinated, I have spreadsheets and contracts coming out of my ears. Everybody keeps asking: How is wedding planning? Do you have *fill in the blank* taken care of? Are you getting excited? How much longer? What are you still working on?
There are SO MANY DETAILS when it comes to planning a wedding. My brain has turned into a color coded OCD bridal planning machine capable of multi-tasking and multi-thinking, the likes of which I've never seen before. Last night we sat down with our Priest to figure out the order of the service. I had all of our passages written down, who was reading what verse (equally split up between both families of course) what Responsorial Psalms we wanted, what order our WP was coming in and with whom. We got to the part where we were going over our vows and he said: "Let's just take a moment to pause here because I want to slow down for a minute and make sure you both really understand what's going on during this part of the service." He went on to explain in detail that the words we will be saying to one another are the same words that have been said for centuries. How many couples through the ages have solemnly expressed their unending love for one another. To stay together no matter what happens. To love each other and be committed to one another for the rest of their lives. We are standing before God and everyone we love and We. Are. Getting. Married. My heart sped up and my brain slowed down.
It is so easy to get lost in the details of the day. To worry about what etiquette is correct and what wording is appropriate. Trying to decide what to do that the least amount of people will side eye. At the end of the day, you're getting married to the love of your life. Everything else is details that, while huge in your brain right now, honestly don't matter when it's all said and done. Be happy. Be excited. Don't stress. Don't get lost in the nonsense of your wedding day. Just be with one another. Take it all in. Make the entire experience positive. And focus on the end goal. Get married. Have fun. Love one another. The rest of the stuff is just stuff.