Very early on in the planning FI and I decided not to include children of friends for a variety of reasons. All were ok with this.
A few days after invites were sent, I got a text from one of FIs friends' wives asking if her kids could come to the wedding - I said we weren't able to accommodate. All is good.
Well, come to find out, FI's parents invited those kids (5 under 5) and their grandmothers to the rehearsal- so now all 9 of them are flying to NY for our wedding. FILs also put a 'buy the couple a gift here' link on the rehearsal invite (without my knowledge) but that's another story.
What do I do? The wedding is in a couple weeks and we do not have room for 7 extra people, nor do I think it's fair that now one of our friends' could bring their kids...But it's odd that someone coming to the rehearsal dinner (less than half the size of the reception) isn't coming to the wedding. On top of that, there are numerous family members we would have invited had we known there was extra room...
help?