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Bridesmaids? with kids...

Hi, I have a terminology question. Both my MOH and bridesmaid are unmarried (and never have been married), but have children. Are they still "maids," or should they be called "matrons?" I can't seem to find anything online about this, only married/unmarried designations.

Re: Bridesmaids? with kids...

  • They're still maids.



  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited September 2016
    Bridesmaids.  In the distant past, only unmarried ladies could be bridesmaids.  That changed years ago.  Honestly, you sound a bit judgmental, worrying about this.  I would let it go and keep quiet.
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  • Bridesmaid, Maid of Honour.

    The only distinction is married/unmarried. Although even if married, I've never heard of "bridesmatron" (as said, traditionally bridesmaids were never married).
  • SP29 said:
    Bridesmaid, Maid of Honour.

    The only distinction is married/unmarried. Although even if married, I've never heard of "bridesmatron" (as said, traditionally bridesmaids were never married).
    I'm guessing OP really is asking about Maid or Matron of Honor. 
  • My cousin insisted upon calling me matron of honor. I thought it sounded silly. I prefer maid of honor. 

    And matron doesnt just just mean a married woman. If you look it up, it has connotations of an older woman, middle-aged on up, which certainly didn't fit me!
  • CMGragainCMGragain member
    First Anniversary First Comment First Answer 5 Love Its
    edited September 2016
    I apologize if I was wrong, but what difference does it make if an unmarried lady has children?  She doesn't get a different title because she is what used to be called "an unwed mother".  (Glad those times are gone!)  They are Bridesmaids, not Bridesvirgins.
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  • My cousin insisted upon calling me matron of honor. I thought it sounded silly. I prefer maid of honor. 

    And matron doesnt just just mean a married woman. If you look it up, it has connotations of an older woman, middle-aged on up, which certainly didn't fit me!
    Many wedding traditions go back centuries.  The original meaning of "matron" was simply a married woman, and this was from the days when anyone over age 18 who wasn't married was called an "old maid".
    Today, the word had morphed into many new meanings that it never used to have.  It isn't the only word to have changed recently.  "Gay" used to mean happy and carefree.
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