Note: STDs and Invites have not gone out yet!
We are not inviting children to our wedding. As a backup plan for those that are absolutely unable to attend our big day if they cannot bring their child(ren), we are considering hiring 2 babysitters to team up. We are not broadcasting this offer, but have the sitters ready in case people call us really wanting to attend but cannot find a sitter for the night (such as cousins, who would normally ask their parents to watch the kids but their parents are attending as well).
I think that since we are offering the babysitters, we should pay for the babysitters (yes?). But...are we obligated to then pay for food for the kids as well. Should that be the parents' responsibility to coordinate ordering food or bringing a dinner to the room where the kids will be? It was their choice to bring kids despite them not being invited, so I think they should figure out what their kids want to eat and pay for it. And also just the logistics...I can't really be taking time out of my already busy day to worry about ordering pizza for children that were not invited in the first place.
Did anyone out there offer a babysitter for the night? What worked for you? What didn't work?