Ok, I got it. I legitimately didn't know and wanted to avoid being rude. But apparently I should have known immediately and not asked a stupid question. Silly me.We've established that I'm an asshole for even thinking about it. Can we drop it now?
It was a very legitimate question to ask, and it was something that I had to think about before I answered. I would take some time away from all the wedding stuff and then come back with a refreshed attitude.
Maybe sleep on this and think about the inferences you are reading into the comments. It's a bit of a leap to say pp are inferring you are an asshole, all I see is people trying to steer you in the right direction. Maybe if this is getting a bit too much for you think about taking a step back from the interwebs for a while, a lot is going on for you right now so please look after yourself
Thanks everyone. I'm sorry for my posts yesterday. I was having a shit day at work and took it out on all of you. I really do appreciate the advice.And yes, I am feeling emotional about canceling the wedding. I need to think a little more than usual before I post.
@OurWildKingdom, cancelling or postponing a wedding would be a major stress event in most lives. I really like the advice of practicing self care and perhaps that includes not thinking about the wedding at all for a while. I think you had very important and valid reasons for putting a hold on things. A hold to me means a hold on anything wedding related and thus 'permission' to focus on other important things. Perhaps you can put anything wedding related (including planning something in the future) off until 2017. Give yourself a few solid months.