UGH at this whole world

Heffalump

So I put on my workout gear and got cat called in the parking lot for my trouble. I am so tired of this, y'all. He was young, but old enough to drive, and thus way past old enough to know better.

I was like "NO" and went off on him, Julia Sugarbaker style. I don't even know what all I said, something about keeping his comments about women's bodies to himself and how inappropriate it is to make those kinds of comments to strangers. His friend had the good sense to tell him to shut up, but of course he decided to tell me to fuck off instead. I told him he should take his friend's advice, and Friend said, "Oh, he's not my friend!"

Then a guy came walking out to his car, also from the Y, from the looks of things, so the other two guys left. I'm half afraid I'll find my car keyed when I'm done, but I'm sick of it, y'all. So sick and tired of it.

kimmiinthemitten

And you know his version of the story is going to be something like:

Women wonder why there aren't any nice guys out there. I was just trying to pay the bitch a compliment and she freaked out on me. 

On what planet does cat calling and harassment work and will they please stop spreading rumors that it works here. Sorry you went through that today but good for you for giving him the business. 

glasgowtolondon

Yeah it's funny how these guys always think they are the good guys. All these uptight bitches should just calm down and enjoy their attention. 

cowgirl8238

Sorry to hear that you ran into a jerk...but so glad that you said something to put him in his place.  I can only hope that it makes him think about what he is doing and how it makes others feel.

Sometimes I wish I could just smack these people...but I don't think that would really solve anything.

sparklepants41

glasgowtolondon said:

Yeah it's funny how these guys always think they are the good guys. All these uptight bitches should just calm down and enjoy their attention. 

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Exactly.

Or we should "smile" because "he was just trying to be nice" 

Assholes.

I don't run as much as I used to (or should), but for as long as I have been running, a guy driving by will beep their horn and then yell some kind of cat call my way. One day when I was home from college my dad got home from work early and beeped at me when he drove past me as his way of saying hi.

Only I didn't realize it was my dad so I gave the finger and kept running. When I got home my dad asked why I flipped him off - so I told him. He was actually really proud of me for doing that and vowed never to beep at me again. LOL.

bleve0821

"Assholes.  Arseholes, you'd call them.  People, who, when they open their mouths, shit comes out because that's all that's in their heads."
--Ramsey Campbell, Incarnate

Best description I have ever read.  More than sufficiently appropriate here.

Heffalump

This all started after I got out of my car, so I had the sun shade up already.  (I'm in the south, and it's supposed to be 84 and sunny today.)  So after my workout, I was walking back and was like "Did I remember to lock the car?"  So then I was paranoid that I didn't lock the car and the guy was going to be hiding in the back seat or something, and I couldn't see in because of the sun shade.  I opened the trunk first and peeked in through there to make sure everything was cool.  (It's an Outback, so the back-back is pretty roomy--I actually crawled in and looked over the seats.)

It was at least encouraging that the guy with him told him to shut up.  I realized in retrospect that me vs. two young guys maybe wasn't extra-smart, but it was broad daylight in a pretty busy area.  And he didn't look dangerous, just stupid.  I really do hope he thinks twice before he comments on someone else's ass, but maybe that's overly optimistic.

mrsconn23

UGH! is right!  Dear god, what a moron.  We do not have to shut up and take it, fuckers.  

I was cat-called in the grocery store parking lot last year.  I told the guy he was being 'fucking inappropriate'.   There were enough people around that I felt 'safe' telling him off. 

A few months ago, I had to park down the street from a restaurant where I was meeting my sister and some friends.  I got hit in 3 or 4 times walking down the street and ignored them all, because I was terrified of being volatile and them reacting since I had no defenses/witnesses.  Plus one guy had a dog, which made me more edgy. 

charlotte989875

This is what you should yell at him next time you see him at the gym...