Some of my extended family is homophobic. I'm not quite sure who is anymore because some of the ones who were homophobic act like they've changed their tune since they figured out that I'm gay. I don't think anyone will make a scene, but my fiancee and I don't really want people to be there if they don't support our marriage.
One of our bridesmaids is transgender as well. I know some people are even more transphobic and I want to protect her too.
The ceremony is also going to be non-traditional, with a Celtic High Priestess and a Lutheran (ELCA) Pastor. The same family members won't be comfortable with this either, even though the Pastor is 100% on board with the handfasting.
I have to invite some relatives that may be a problem because they are my Dad's siblings and their kids, his family is extremely close, and the wedding is in my parents' backyard. I'd like to include something with the wedding invitation that gets the point across that I won't be offended if people who can't support our marriage decide not to come (the subtext is that I'd prefer those with an issue not come, but I know that won't go over well). I'm not sure if I want to out our bridesmaid, but I also don't want her to feel threatened by my bigoted cousin (I know her opinion on trans issues). How can I word this so that no one gets offended, but people get the point?