I hope I'm not jumping the gun by posting this, but I typically don't see the Slate Plus ones posted. I wanted to post this one because I think Prudie got it wrong. I'll post her response later.
TW: child loss.
Dear Prudence,
When my friend became pregnant she asked me if she could buy my kids’ old cot. I told her she could borrow it but made it clear I wanted it returned when she was finished. She knows the cot holds a lot of sentimental value for me, as my late grandfather made it. Unfortunately her baby boy passed away unexpectedly and she is planning to burn everything he used due to religious beliefs. Yesterday I went to her place and saw the cot pushed out into the garage along with everything else she is planning to burn. It wasn’t the time to say anything so I held my tongue but I really want my old cot back. I would be devastated if she burns this. Is it callous if I contact her and ask about the cot while she is mourning?