So to provide a bit of info before I get started, I get along alright with my FMIL. She has been known to be quite...old fashioned. When we told her our wedding date, she was noticeably upset that it is a weekday and not a weekend. She made very clear that we shoild hand write our invitations instead of having them printed. My FI spilled a bit too much info and now FMIL wants to help make centerpieces that I was excited to craft on my own.
Moving forward...
I will be going to try on dresses in a couple months, and the only people I plan to have present will be my own mom, my sister (MOH), and my bridesmaid. Just a small group of people whose opinions I trust and rely on to help me find the perfect dress.
Now my sister is trying to convince me of why I need to invite my FMIL, to spare her feelings in case she may get upset at not getting to be a part of this. To be completely honest, since she and I are not very close, her opinion of my dress is not one I want, knowing how heavily opinionated she can be. I am afraid she may have opinions that so conflict with the other 3 that all she will do is stress/upset or frustrate me.
My FI is indifferent. He understands both sides, and told me to just do what I am most comfortable with. My sister suggested staging a secondary "fitting" when I am pretty certain I have narrowed down my dress, and invite FMIL to that so she feels included.
What are your opinions on this? I am not trying to exclude her, I am only trying to keep my gallery of opinions small and minimize the number of people who even see the dress before the wedding. I thought choosing 3 people I am very close to would be the best choice for that. I am finding through the wedding planning process that it is incredibly difficult, if not impossible, to please everyone.