Before I start yes I know I should expect regrets and that's just part of planning a wedding. It's the timing that gets me on this.
Fiances cousin is getting married June 24 and wants their RSVPs in by April 1(wth? They're menu is roast chicken and only roast chicken). Our wedding is June 3 and want our RSVPs by April 30.
They have known our wedding date since October and we sent out save the dates in December. We just got a Facebook message tonight saying that they can't attend our wedding because they are having their bachelor and bachelorette parties the day of our wedding so they can't come (and subsequently most of the people on his side of the family) and that some of this was planned before they knew about our wedding. I'm sorry. But really? If this has been planned out so far in advance why is this the first we are hearing about it? We could have invited more people that didn't make the cut if we knew they weren't going to come.
Here is were it gets a little stinky in my mind. Their RSVP for their wedding was April 1. I just mailed in our accept with pleasure a few days ago so I feel like they just got it in the mail when they decided to grace us with the knowledge that they aren't coming to ours and basically hijack half of the family.
We really didn't want to go their wedding in the first place. We are both scheduled to work the weekend of their wedding and we would both have to take time off work to go. Not something we really want to do because we just bought our dream house and will be strapped with a new mortgage.
I just feel like their excuse isn't good enough. I mean I guess it shows where their priorities are. That going drinking and to strip clubs is more important that being a part of big family events.
But seriously? Wait until I send in your RSVP before telling me? I want to change our RSVP. I mean if we do go we will have a miserable time because we will be sat at a table filled with people who showed us just how much they prefer the other couple to us.
Am I crazy? I mean I technically have till April 1 to change my RSVP and still be etiquette-correct. I mean it will be so obvious the reason why we are changing but we have always gone the extra mile to keep a good relationship with them and it's never reciprocated. We are both pretty much done with them. Thoughts?