After starting the wedding planning=(we put a deposit on a venue and planner, i bought my dress, and sent the STDs) my FI and I have decided that a large wedding isnt really what we want to begin our life together. Plus it didn't help that 3 out of 5 maids dropped out and the grooms BM and neither side has showed any interest in the big day (not a big deal but annoying as some things are in wedding planning) and a majority invited already mentioned they may not attend because its a Friday on labor day weekend. With 5 months away, we are deciding to just go to Hawaii for our honeymoon extended and have a private ceremony while there.
I was trying to think of a way to still celebrate with friends and family and since the STDs went out---maybe just having a little dinner at a brewery to share photos and such with family and friends, no gifts we didn't really want to register for anything anyways. I was hoping to still celebrate on the day I had people STD (sept 1st). Do you guys think it will be too much to plan a private ceremony in Aug last minute in Hawaii, get invites out announcing the marriage AND the after celebration, and planning the celebration dinner? Should I send the a notice that the wedding is cancelled but we are getting married abroad and celebrating after? I know some people may be hurt, happens whether we have a formal wedding home, but i want to make the transition as smooth as possible.Any tips would be great!