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PSA: Thinking of getting married before your DW?

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Re: PSA: Thinking of getting married before your DW?

  • @coop4321 - Ok no....you do not need to establish residency (if you're both from the U.S.), your ceremony does not need to be in Spanish, and you do not need to return 30 days later to get your paperwork - you can get it the same day or a couple days later. I don't know who/where your information is coming from, but it's incorrect. It's not that hard to get married there. 

    You have vision blinders on. You want a swanky beach wedding in Mexico, but you don't want to put in the work, so you're willing to literally lie to the most important people in your life to make it happen. WAKE UP. Have some integrity. Either get married in Mexico or don't, but don't lie to your family and friends. Oh and also, not telling people is lying by omission. 
    Oh, I'm guessing that information is coming from the same travel agent telling them not to tell anyone they are getting married in the States.
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  • I really don't understand why people think it is so difficult to make a marriage legal in Mexico. So, there are two things- being there ~3 days before the ceremony and the blood test. Many resorts will act as a middle man for the paperwork to reduce the time frame you need to be in country and even do onsite blood tests.

    However, one thing specifically gets me - the 3 day in-country requirement. Most couples I know took around that same amount of time off before their local weddings for preparations/last minute issues. I'm pretty sure blood tests and paperwork would fall into that preparation category. Also, if guests are traveling overseas for the wedding, they are most likely taking 2-3 days off prior to the ceremony to be there to witness it (a day of traveling, a day of buffer in case of a delayed flight). So, if your guests have to do it, you can too!

    I personally did not get married the day I stepped foot in Australia. We did not have a residency requirement because of the paperwork done up front (amazing what can be coordinated from afar), but I wanted that time to beat jet lag, relax, and have time to sort out any last minute details (meeting my photographer for the first time, meeting the wedding coordinator for the first time, etc). I really liked having that time to just enjoy my H before he really became my H!!
    My sister's resort even told them to be there 3 days ahead of time for the PPD ceremony! There would have been pleeeeeeeeenty of time in those 3 days for blood tests, paperwork, etc. And yeah, any couple traveling for their wedding would probably get to the area at least a couple days ahead of time anyway. Hell, I took off 2 days before our wedding and it was 20 minutes away.
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  • When I was a bride, blood tests were required in most states in the USA.  Why the problem?  Mexican marriage law varies by the location.  Resorts are expert at getting you through the paperwork.  There is no excuse to have a fake wedding.
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  • This would definitely hurt, but I think I'd still be there during the wedding to support. Still...
  • My Fiance and I are getting married in Mexico in 2020 and have looked into making it legal at the ceremony.  However, is costs a lot more you have to go down 4 days before.  You have to have blood work done, a chest scan, and your birth certificate translated to Spanish.  We ended up deciding we will go to the court house with just our immediate family a day before heading to Mexico.  But we are NOT telling anyone else invited to the wedding, because we don't want any hurt feelings.  Your sister should have told you so you could be there and definitely not posted about it, because a lot of people will think, why am I paying and flying someplace to see you get married, when you're already married?!
  • levioosalevioosa Southern California
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    My Fiance and I are getting married in Mexico in 2020 and have looked into making it legal at the ceremony.  However, is costs a lot more you have to go down 4 days before.  You have to have blood work done, a chest scan, and your birth certificate translated to Spanish.  We ended up deciding we will go to the court house with just our immediate family a day before heading to Mexico.  But we are NOT telling anyone else invited to the wedding, because we don't want any hurt feelings.  Your sister should have told you so you could be there and definitely not posted about it, because a lot of people will think, why am I paying and flying someplace to see you get married, when you're already married?!
    Except you’re doing the same exact thing. 


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  • Well what's the right way to do it then? There will be conflict either way.
  • levioosa said:
    My Fiance and I are getting married in Mexico in 2020 and have looked into making it legal at the ceremony.  However, is costs a lot more you have to go down 4 days before.  You have to have blood work done, a chest scan, and your birth certificate translated to Spanish.  We ended up deciding we will go to the court house with just our immediate family a day before heading to Mexico.  But we are NOT telling anyone else invited to the wedding, because we don't want any hurt feelings.  Your sister should have told you so you could be there and definitely not posted about it, because a lot of people will think, why am I paying and flying someplace to see you get married, when you're already married?!
    Except you’re doing the same exact thing. 
    Well what's the right way to do it then? There will be conflict either way.
  • flantasticflantastic The Midwest
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    levioosa said:
    My Fiance and I are getting married in Mexico in 2020 and have looked into making it legal at the ceremony.  However, is costs a lot more you have to go down 4 days before.  You have to have blood work done, a chest scan, and your birth certificate translated to Spanish.  We ended up deciding we will go to the court house with just our immediate family a day before heading to Mexico.  But we are NOT telling anyone else invited to the wedding, because we don't want any hurt feelings.  Your sister should have told you so you could be there and definitely not posted about it, because a lot of people will think, why am I paying and flying someplace to see you get married, when you're already married?!
    Except you’re doing the same exact thing. 
    Well what's the right way to do it then? There will be conflict either way.
    Don't get married in Mexico. That is the right way to do it.

    (That is, unless you're prepared to do the 4 days, blood work, chest scan, etc. and you are inviting people to a legal marriage in Mexico. Because the actual, legal marriage is what they care about, as you yourself recognized with the bolded.)

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  • MobKazMobKaz Chicago suburbs
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    levioosa said:
    My Fiance and I are getting married in Mexico in 2020 and have looked into making it legal at the ceremony.  However, is costs a lot more you have to go down 4 days before.  You have to have blood work done, a chest scan, and your birth certificate translated to Spanish.  We ended up deciding we will go to the court house with just our immediate family a day before heading to Mexico.  But we are NOT telling anyone else invited to the wedding, because we don't want any hurt feelings.  Your sister should have told you so you could be there and definitely not posted about it, because a lot of people will think, why am I paying and flying someplace to see you get married, when you're already married?!
    Except you’re doing the same exact thing. 
    Well what's the right way to do it then? There will be conflict either way.
    Is this a trick question?

    The right, and ONLY way to marry is in ONE legally binding ceremony in which all guests are aware that it is THE ONLY legal ceremony.  The right way to marry is legally and honestly.  There is ZERO conflict and 100% common sense and decency.

    Why, for the love of all things holy, would ANYONE want to deliberately LIE to their nearest and dearest? 

    If you want to MARRY in another country, then fulfill the requirements.  If you want to play or vacation in another country, then honeymoon there. You cannot and should not try to have it both ways.  It is impossible.
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  • climbingwifeclimbingwife NYC 'burbs
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    My Fiance and I are getting married in Mexico in 2020 and have looked into making it legal at the ceremony.  However, is costs a lot more you have to go down 4 days before.  You have to have blood work done, a chest scan, and your birth certificate translated to Spanish.  We ended up deciding we will go to the court house with just our immediate family a day before heading to Mexico.  But we are NOT telling anyone else invited to the wedding, because we don't want any hurt feelings.  Your sister should have told you so you could be there and definitely not posted about it, because a lot of people will think, why am I paying and flying someplace to see you get married, when you're already married?!
    Do not lie to your guests! This is a terrible idea! 

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  • ahoyweddingahoywedding
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    My Fiance and I are getting married in Mexico in 2020 and have looked into making it legal at the ceremony.  However, is costs a lot more you have to go down 4 days before.  You have to have blood work done, a chest scan, and your birth certificate translated to Spanish.  We ended up deciding we will go to the court house with just our immediate family a day before heading to Mexico.  But we are NOT telling anyone else invited to the wedding, because we don't want any hurt feelings.  Your sister should have told you so you could be there and definitely not posted about it, because a lot of people will think, why am I paying and flying someplace to see you get married, when you're already married?!
    They're going to find out. Maybe not before your wedding, maybe not while you're all in Mexico, but the truth will eventually come out. Do you trust your immediate family to not let anything slip? They may not say anything on purpose, but it could be let out on accident. My sister wasn't planning on her friend running into our parents, but that happened. Won't your family thing it's weird when you tell them they can't mention anything about you legal ceremony ever?

    Your immediate family may not say anything to you, but I almost guarantee that at least one person is wishing they didn't have to pay a bunch of money out of pocket to go to Mexico for your wedding reenactment. 

    Also, this post is super old. If you want to continue the conversation, it's best to start a new thread.
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  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold bend over and I'll show ya
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    My Fiance and I are getting married in Mexico in 2020 and have looked into making it legal at the ceremony.  However, is costs a lot more you have to go down 4 days before.  You have to have blood work done, a chest scan, and your birth certificate translated to Spanish.  We ended up deciding we will go to the court house with just our immediate family a day before heading to Mexico.  But we are NOT telling anyone else invited to the wedding, because we don't want any hurt feelings.  Your sister should have told you so you could be there and definitely not posted about it, because a lot of people will think, why am I paying and flying someplace to see you get married, when you're already married?!
    Yeah I;m with Levioosa here - how is what you're planning any different than this?
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