To make a long story short,His family wants us to either:1. Elope. 2. Cut down their guest list on the # of people they have invited. We are doing the destination wedding because it was the only way we could convince his family to not do either option. We feel that would be extremely rude after having an engagement party to either elope without anyone in attendance, or purposefully not invite guests to the wedding that were invited to the engagement party.
DITTO to actually getting married there. We went to a "wedding" in Jamaica a few years ago. I found out 6 months ago that they "got all the paperwork out of the way" here in the States before the event and didn't tell anyone except their immediate family. We spent thousands, used our PTO, and missed another actual wedding here at home to attend. I am still so pissed. If I had known they were just having a play pretend ceremony, we would have saved a bunch of money and attended the other ACTUAL wedding.