Please help with some best practices for our special day. We are having an immediate family only DW (small 15 minute service on a beach, nothing formal) and a big party upon our return, which we are hosting.
We wanted to avoid having a party, but friends and family are insisting we have a celebration of some sort. Our thought is to keep it casual with a taco guy and full bar, without traditional elements such as first dance, cake cutting, etc.
Our parents want to throw us a shower, but it goes against traditional etiquette since no one outside of our parents and siblings will be present at the actual ceremony.
What should we do?