1st off I apologize for any odd autocorrects. Doing this during break on my phone.
Without going into too much back story the issue I'm having is for my "something old" I'm wearing my grandma's (Dad's mom) 1920s pearl drop earrings that she left me when she passed away. I might also try to include some of the other pieces she left me as well around my bouquet or some thing. Her and my grandpa were my world before they passed away and at every major life event I still always think "they should be here for this" so on one of the most important days of my life it hurts a little that they cant be here.
Anyway. I asked my mom how to possibly include these other pieces from myy grandma and she made the comment "Don't you want anything of mine." My first thought was you're not dead, grandma is so she gets dibs. I kinda shugged it off and said maybe acting like I hadn't considered it.
Now she's asking if I want the cake cutting set from her wedding and I could get my date engraved on the back since hers is on the front. She's thinks that would be cool.
I love my mom but her marriage to my dad is not an inspiring one and definitely not a good example I'd like to follow.
Short story is my parents are together now and have legally been married for 36yrs but they lived apart for 10 years.
So question is, how do I tell my mom without hurting her feelings I don't want anything from your wedding in my wedding?