ending friendship with MOH

Knottie43f590fbfde66bc4

Hi everyone! 
well this is my first post and I have no idea where to start. My discussion title is intense but I did fire and end my friendship with my MOH. We have been friends since high school and just last week I received a text from her saying "it has never been a friendship, I did not reciprocate anything, and she's been such a great friend to me." After that, I simply asked for the dress back that I paid for because I was already upset and wondered to myself, do I really want her apart of mine and my fiancé's big day? Well I kept texting her that we needed to talk asap but I got no response. I gave her a week and finally talked with her. I got no where, then she says I am shady, she does not know me anymore, and I simply told her good luck and walked away (officially end of friendship). In her mind she thinks she's being blamed, i don't know what for, but I just don't get the genuine friendship anymore. I do think she is jealous at the fact that I am moving on and I am not that 21 year old that I used to be. I guess weddings really show your true friends...

I will give her time, but will that solve anything?

thanks for listening!

holyguacamole79

Already replied to you on the other board.  p.s.  If you're posting on multiple boards, put XP in your title.

LondonLisa

Knottie43f590fbfde66bc4 said:

Hi everyone! 
well this is my first post and I have no idea where to start. My discussion title is intense but I did fire and end my friendship with my MOH. We have been friends since high school and just last week I received a text from her saying "it has never been a friendship, I did not reciprocate anything, and she's been such a great friend to me." After that, I simply asked for the dress back that I paid for because I was already upset and wondered to myself, do I really want her apart of mine and my fiancé's big day? Well I kept texting her that we needed to talk asap but I got no response. I gave her a week and finally talked with her. I got no where, then she says I am shady, she does not know me anymore, and I simply told her good luck and walked away (officially end of friendship). In her mind she thinks she's being blamed, i don't know what for, but I just don't get the genuine friendship anymore. I do think she is jealous at the fact that I am moving on and I am not that 21 year old that I used to be. I guess weddings really show your true friends...

I will give her time, but will that solve anything?

thanks for listening!

I answered you on the other board. 

You ended the friendship when you kicked her out of your wedding. There is nothing to solve. You did one of the cruelest things a bride can do. 

The only  thing I can suggest is being self-reflective about how you treat people, because from your post, I can see why you are perceived as a bad friend. 

Try to learn and mature from this.