Jane,
While I mainly use Facebook for outside-of-work activities, I am friends with lots of professional colleagues on there. Therefore, I sometimes click on things that they post because they are related to my field. Facebook, in its eminent wisdom, has thus decided that I should be seeing lots more that these work friends’ posts. This is how I came to find out that one of my colleagues is going through a messy divorce and custody battle. Like, mental health evaluation and accusations of brainwashing her son-level messy.
We are former coworkers, and should run into one another at professional events a couple times in the coming months. I want to express my support for her in her tough time, but by doing so I would be obliged to tell her how I came to find out. (“I didn’t MEAN to creep on your marriage, I just fell into it!”) I anticipate that you’re going to say that I should keep this information to myself. But on the chance that I should try to reach out, is there something I could say? (I am a straight man and she is a straight woman, if that affects your answer.)
Thanks