Dear Prudence,
I’m mentoring a passionate young woman who is studying to enter my career field. She’s confronting some major issues in the process, mostly related to focus, money, and inconsistent support from her husband. I’ve seen this building for months. The advice I think I need to give her is that she has to have a serious conversation with her husband about his inconsistent support and ultimately decide how to proceed if he’s unable to commit. My belief is that the money and focus issues are secondary for her and will become manageable once her husband steps up to support her. My fear is that he’s not sufficiently mature or emotionally ready to commit to supporting her through the process of entering this profession. I don’t know how to tell her this, or even if I should. Maybe I can help guide her to figuring it out for herself. You’re a professional advice giver. Have any advice on how to give advice?
—How Much to Say