We got married in 2016 and we want to do a 10 year vow renewal. Is it too soon to start rough planning? What would you do?SITBYes it's too early! You don't need 8 years to plan what's essentially an anniversary party at this point, seeing as how you literally just got married. Personally, i sees vow renewls as a way to reaffirm your commitment after particularly trying times or a significant amount of time (like 25 or even 50 years), so the fact that you're planning one after 2 years or less of marriage for 8 years from now is bizarre.As to what I'd do, I'd sit on the idea for another 7 years and revisit it then, but just throw a big fun anniversary party, if I absolutely needed to throw myself something.
Not only is it way too early to start planning a vow renewal, I feel like this is really, really bad juju for your marriage. Vow renewals for under 20 years are usually for major catastrophic life events (ie: someone in the relationship had cancer) or there was infidelity/ a near-divorce. Vow renewals are just parties. They are not wedding take 2. Weddings, let alone parties, do not take 8 years to plan. I mean, the 2024 Olympics were JUST announced a few months ago. If Paris can organise and arrange a multibillion Euro sporting event for millions of visitors in 6 years, I think you are good to wait a bit in deciding if you want crab cakes or gazpacho shooters in the passed hors d'ouevres . Did something happen with your wedding that you are not happy about? Why do you want a renewal?
I'm with the other PPs in their confusion.
From a technical standpoint, other than bouncing off general ideas with your H, what would you all even be planning? You might have a good idea of family you'd invite, but who knows how many people/friends outside of that you'd want to include. The "numbers" are a big part of planning any kind of party. No vendors are going to be able to reserve anything this far out. They couldn't even give you valid prices at this point.
I'd look instead at why you all are already thinking about a vow renewal. Perhaps focus on the source of that angst instead.