Vow Renewals

Vow Renewal Time Frame

We got married in 2016 and we want to do a 10 year vow renewal. Is it too soon to start rough planning? What would you do?

Re: Vow Renewal Time Frame

  • edited February 11
    We got married in 2016 and we want to do a 10 year vow renewal. Is it too soon to start rough planning? What would you do?


    Yes it's too early! You don't need 8 years to plan what's essentially an anniversary party at this point, seeing as how you literally just got married. Personally, i sees vow renewls as a way to reaffirm your commitment after particularly trying times or a significant amount of time (like 25 or even 50 years), so the fact that you're planning one after 2 years or less of marriage for 8 years from now is bizarre.

    As to what I'd do, I'd sit on the idea for another 7 years and revisit it then, but just throw a big fun anniversary party, if I absolutely needed to throw myself something.
  • Too early. Focus on being together. At 9 years married you can start thinking about something. 

    You can can always have a party for another reason. Host a theme party for friends if you really like hosting and having parties. 
  • Seriously you’re asking if 8 years is too early to start planning a party?! I’d definitely say it’s too early. 

    Why do you want to have a vow renewal, and why do you want to start planning now?
  • The important question is not WHEN you should start planning, but WHY you are thinking about having a vow renewal less than two years after your wedding!
  • MairePoppyMairePoppy Connecticut
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    It's way too early. You should spend the next 8 years living your lives. If you feel the need for a ten year vow renewal, you could plan a very nice ceremony and reception in less than 6 months. 
  • Very few things in this world require 8 years to plan. A vow renewal is definitely not on that list. It's not up to me to decide how soon is too soon to do a vow renewal, but this is something that you think about and plan months before, not years before. Live your life and come back to this question when it gets closer to your 10th anniversary. 

  • Not only is it way too early to start planning a vow renewal, I feel like this is really, really bad juju for your marriage. Vow renewals for under 20 years are usually for major catastrophic life events (ie: someone in the relationship had cancer) or there was infidelity/ a near-divorce.  

    Vow renewals are just parties. They are not wedding take 2. Weddings, let alone parties, do not take 8 years to plan. I mean, the 2024 Olympics were JUST announced a few months ago. If Paris can organise and arrange a multibillion Euro sporting event for millions of visitors in 6 years, I think you are good to wait a bit in deciding if you want crab cakes or gazpacho shooters in the passed hors d'ouevres . 

    Did something happen with your wedding that you are not happy about? Why do you want a renewal?

    THIS. I would not tempt fate. 
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