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Just Engaged and Starting Law School This Fall!

Hello everyone!

My boyfriend of 4 years surprised me in January and proposed! We are so excited for this next phase in our lives, and can't wait to get married. However, this fall I will be starting law school. Currently we are semi-long distance (2.5 hr drive - we see each other every other weekend give or take), and will be while I'm in law school as well. Originally we were thinking of getting married during fall of 3L, but then I realized that I won't know my schedule then and who knows what my workload will be like the week of the wedding! I want to enjoy my wedding, not studying for an exam minutes before the ceremony hahaha. So, we decided to push back the date to sometime in Fall of 2021. The long engagement is not ideal, but we both want me to do well in law school and focus on that while I'm there. Getting married in the summers between is not ideal because (1) I don't like wearing formal attire in warm weather and (2) I'd like to focus on my summer internships in order to secure a job at graduation. Getting married during winter break wouldn't be ideal either because we have family from out of town that we would like to be there, and it's hard with the expensive holiday travel to get everyone in. 

Is a 3.5 year engagement too long? Are there any other law students on here who managed to pull off a wedding when they were in school? I'd love any advice or input! 

Re: Just Engaged and Starting Law School This Fall!

  • Hello everyone!

    My boyfriend of 4 years surprised me in January and proposed! We are so excited for this next phase in our lives, and can't wait to get married. However, this fall I will be starting law school. Currently we are semi-long distance (2.5 hr drive - we see each other every other weekend give or take), and will be while I'm in law school as well. Originally we were thinking of getting married during fall of 3L, but then I realized that I won't know my schedule then and who knows what my workload will be like the week of the wedding! I want to enjoy my wedding, not studying for an exam minutes before the ceremony hahaha. So, we decided to push back the date to sometime in Fall of 2021. The long engagement is not ideal, but we both want me to do well in law school and focus on that while I'm there. Getting married in the summers between is not ideal because (1) I don't like wearing formal attire in warm weather and (2) I'd like to focus on my summer internships in order to secure a job at graduation. Getting married during winter break wouldn't be ideal either because we have family from out of town that we would like to be there, and it's hard with the expensive holiday travel to get everyone in. 

    Is a 3.5 year engagement too long? Are there any other law students on here who managed to pull off a wedding when they were in school? I'd love any advice or input! 
    3.5 years is only too long if you feel like you'd want to be married before then. 

    I'm a pre-law advisor (although I have a PhD not a JD), and depending on where you're going to law school most schools follow a similar set up where you're course grade is based on one final exam; so you'll really only be studying for exams at the end of the semester. You'll obviously have work you have to do during the semester, but it's not like you won't have a good idea of your (rough) exam times. And while you'll have an internship during the summers, likely you'll have a week or so in between the end of classes and the start of the internship (again, depending on the school and the internship). 

    I think it's best to figure out what is really most important; is it being married sooner rather than later, is time the time of year you are married, is it having a big/small wedding? I had friends that were married during the semester in grad school; they got married on a Friday or Saturday and were back to classes on Monday. Or got married on a long weekend or during a fall/spring break. It all depends on what you want. 
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