I’ve been with my husband for 10 years, and he’s great; he’s loving, supportive, funny, a great dad, and smart. Here’s my issue: I can’t shake my ex out of my head the last few months. I’m having dreams about him (both innocent and otherwise), and he creeps into my thoughts multiple times a day. I have no idea why. We broke up more than 10 years ago and have only run into each other a handful of times since. He was my first love and first lover. I feel very guilty about these dreams and thoughts, and I’m not sure what to do.
—Shaking Ex Out of My Thoughts