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Bridal Shower Etiquitte for small family only wedding (gifts?)

I am having a small family only (50 guests, no bridal party) wedding out of state.

My mom and best friend want to host a bridal shower in my home state so I can celebrate with people who I cannot be at the wedding. I love the idea of celebrating with friends and family who cannot attend the wedding, but I feel strange about the gift situation.
I have on the invite that it is a family only wedding out of state, but what should I do about gifts? Should I say "No gifts expected" since most of these people are not invited to the wedding?
Or, should I include registry info? My mom says it is a must to include registry info for a shower and my friends and family will be happy to receive a shower invite, it is a way of including them. (More traditional approach for a larger wedding...)

What is proper nowadays for a bridal shower for a family only/destination wedding?

Re: Bridal Shower Etiquitte for small family only wedding (gifts?)

  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold bend over and I'll show ya mod
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    I am having a small family only (50 guests, no bridal party) wedding out of state.

    My mom and best friend want to host a bridal shower in my home state so I can celebrate with people who I cannot be at the wedding. I love the idea of celebrating with friends and family who cannot attend the wedding, but I feel strange about the gift situation.
    I have on the invite that it is a family only wedding out of state, but what should I do about gifts? Should I say "No gifts expected" since most of these people are not invited to the wedding?
    Or, should I include registry info? My mom says it is a must to include registry info for a shower and my friends and family will be happy to receive a shower invite, it is a way of including them. (More traditional approach for a larger wedding...)

    What is proper nowadays for a bridal shower for a family only/destination wedding?


    None of these things are okay! You cannot invite people to a party that's sole purpose is to give you gifts for an event that they're not invited to! Even if this wasn't a shower, you can't invite people to a consolation prize party!

    I get it; I planned to have a small DW also (30 people). Only the people invited to the actual wedding were invited to the shower that was thrown for me. There were no other wedding-related parties with any other people.

    You need to decline this shower completely or insist that only people invited to the wedding itself are invited.

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    dontbeaturdSTARMOON44InLoveInQueens
  • thisismynickname2thisismynickname2 City By The Lake member
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    OP, if you post on multiple boards, put "XP" (for cross-post) in the title. You have more responses over on Etiquette. 
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  • Thank you! Yes, I got that request from someone else as well. I will remember for next time!
  • MobKazMobKaz Chicago suburbs member
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    I am having a small family only (50 guests, no bridal party) wedding out of state.

    My mom and best friend want to host a bridal shower in my home state so I can celebrate with people who I cannot be at the wedding. I love the idea of celebrating with friends and family who cannot attend the wedding, but I feel strange about the gift situation.
    I have on the invite that it is a family only wedding out of state, but what should I do about gifts? Should I say "No gifts expected" since most of these people are not invited to the wedding?
    Or, should I include registry info? My mom says it is a must to include registry info for a shower and my friends and family will be happy to receive a shower invite, it is a way of including them. (More traditional approach for a larger wedding...)

    What is proper nowadays for a bridal shower for a family only/destination wedding?
    I answered you on another board not realizing you had cross posted.  However, to the bolded.......it matters not whether "nowadays" or in past years, or in the future......pre-wedding events are only appropriate for invited wedding guests. 
    InLoveInQueensahoywedding
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