You can't argue with irrational. Save yourself.

mrsconn23

Dear Prudence,
Around the time of my wedding last year, my brother’s fiancée blocked me on Facebook. I had no idea why until last weekend, when she told me that she blocked me because she was not in my wedding and she didn’t want to see pictures of my brother, who was, processing down the aisle next to another woman. She is offended that I paired him with a woman she didn’t know (who happens to be my best friend) while they were engaged. My brother doesn’t seem to think her outrage is odd, and they are apparently expecting an apology. (They are now married.) I think it is bizarre that they think this is legitimate. How do I handle this?
—Processing the Procession

ShesSoCold

Wow, and here I thought I worried about completely ridiculous shit.

MRDCle

Was the new SIL at the wedding? I mean she probably saw it in person so I don't see how photos could be THAT upsetting, but if they are, someone should show her the hide feature. 

mrsconn23

I have never been on "team LW" so fast when reading a letter.  LW needs to give up trying to reason with her brother about this shit. 

The only thing I could see as being 'bothersome' is if the LW's best friend and brother had a previous relationship (beyond being friendly because of LW).  BUT STILL, it was ONE DAY and ONE WALK down an aisle. 

Brother and SIL are being utterly ridic.   I would love to see how the SIL deals with a real problem.  It will probably incapacitate her for weeks. 

ShesSoCold

At my brother's wedding, I was paired with his one friend that I've had a crush on my entire life. I was so excited for 13 year old me. H and I were engaged at the time and he knew all about it and thought it was funny.

banana468

If LW only asked the brother to WALK with the other person and not be split from his wife from the entire reception I think the new SIL is completely out of her mind.

If the LW split spouses for a head table or other events then I think she owes her SIL an apology for not treating them as a social unit at the social event (note - not when standing at a ceremony).  

Other than that, I think a simple, "It's unfortunate that you feel that way years later.   I hope we can put that behind us as we are now family now," will suffice.   

charlotte989875

"I'm sorry this hurt your feelings. I hope that we can put this behind us". 

Then ignore any other ridiculousness on this topic because brother & SIL are crazy. 

levioosa

Geez, no wonder she didn’t ask SIL to be a BM. What a drama llama. Brother and SIL sound exhausting. 

thisismynickname2

ShesSoCold said:

At my brother's wedding, I was paired with his one friend that I've had a crush on my entire life. I was so excited for 13 year old me. H and I were engaged at the time and he knew all about it and thought it was funny.

At my best friend's wedding, I was paired with a guy I'd gone on one date with years ago. I had only asked the happy couple that they not pair me with the guy I'd had a few month fling with 10 years prior. Yeah, that happens when a marrying couple dates for 10 years and tries unsuccessfully to set up all their single friends, hahaha. 

Anyway, SIL sounds like a crazy jealous and insecure person. That's sad when you can't fathom your fiance/husband walking down an aisle with someone else for literally 1 minute total. 

levioosa

The weddings I’ve been in have all been post starting to date FI. I can’t even fathom getting upset because we didn’t walk down the aisle together. Now, I would have liked him to have been invited to all of those weddings as my SO, but that’s a different issue. 

short+sassy

I cannot even fathom a level of jealousy that insane.

About 6 months after we started dating, my (now) ex-b/f was in the wedding party with his ex-g/f...who he had dated for two years and had just stopped dating right before me...they were both asked to be in the WP, when they were still together.  It was naturally assumed they would be walking together.  But that plan swiftly changed after the break-up, lol.

I personally wouldn't have cared if, for some reason, they had still walked down together.  However, I doubt either one of them would have been okay with it! 

PrettyGirlLost

I knew you guys would love this one, lol!

I blew the minds of the Church Ladies who coordinate weddings at the Catholic church where we were married when I told them this was how I wanted my processional to go:

Groom and GMs process to the altar, then parents of the Groom process to their seats, then MOB processes to her seat, then the BM's and flower girls process, then the Ring bearer followed by moi and my dear ole Dad.

They were shocked.  But who will escort the BM's?  Well I have a fuckton so they are going to walk in pairs so the processional goes more quickly.

The Church Ladies' heads damn near exploded at the rehearsal. 

lovesclimbing

PrettyGirlLost said:

I knew you guys would love this one, lol!

I blew the minds of the Church Ladies who coordinate weddings at the Catholic church where we were married when I told them this was how I wanted my processional to go:

Groom and GMs process to the altar, then parents of the Groom process to their seats, then MOB processes to her seat, then the BM's and flower girls process, then the Ring bearer followed by moi and my dear ole Dad.

They were shocked.  But who will escort the BM's?  Well I have a fuckton so they are going to walk in pairs so the processional goes more quickly.

The Church Ladies' heads damn near exploded at the rehearsal. 

It's funny to me that the church ladies were like "oh my goodness!" over that. Not Catholic, but my mom and her sisters all got married in churches and had this set up. I feel like that was pretty normal, and BMs and GMs processing together is a somewhat recent thing to do. 

ILoveBeachMusic

lovesclimbing said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

I knew you guys would love this one, lol!

I blew the minds of the Church Ladies who coordinate weddings at the Catholic church where we were married when I told them this was how I wanted my processional to go:

Groom and GMs process to the altar, then parents of the Groom process to their seats, then MOB processes to her seat, then the BM's and flower girls process, then the Ring bearer followed by moi and my dear ole Dad.

They were shocked.  But who will escort the BM's?  Well I have a fuckton so they are going to walk in pairs so the processional goes more quickly.

The Church Ladies' heads damn near exploded at the rehearsal. 

It's funny to me that the church ladies were like "oh my goodness!" over that. Not Catholic, but my mom and her sisters all got married in churches and had this set up. I feel like that was pretty normal, and BMs and GMs processing together is a somewhat recent thing to do. 

I think this too! In the past, decades ago, I only saw BMs process. The groom and GMs usually just entered the church at the front they didn't even process. Of course, everyone recessed at the end. Why do church ladies have to get so upset over stuff!

Jen4948

At my brother's wedding I was paired off with a guy I used to babysit. He had a girlfriend.

The LW's SIL is BSC. Too bad her brother supports that shit. She doesn't owe any apologies. They do.

ei34

To quote @STARMOON44, “I don’t know the SIL makes it through life”.  (Or something along those lines  ). I can’t fathom that level of jealousy.  LW, I’d stay above it.  How bizarre.