So I'm in my oldest friend's wedding in May next year, while planning mine for October (also next year). I'm trying to keep talk of my wedding to myself and my other bridesmaids and let her have this time in the spotlight. That being said, her maid of honor and one of the other maids are constantly asking for us to get this or that and contribute to such and such. The other maid and I are both trying to pay off debt and school, and have said as much. They don't seem to care and have told us to just "budget" and "work OT" to cover these extra expenses (including a $400 bachlorette weekend).
I don't think the bride is aware of this, and I'm wondering if I should bring it up to her that two of her maids have gone rogue and are making the other two uncomfortable? Should I tell the two demanding money that I'm not going to contribute? I'm trying to save for my own wedding but don't want to throw it up every time!