Favors

Favor Display/Wording

Hi everyone! I'm making and canning homemade apple butter for favors. While we considered making one jar per individual guest, it is unfortunately not in our budget nor do we have the time do make 100+ jars of apple butter. Instead, we have decided to allot one jar per invitation, plus some extra, (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-and-So get one jar, and Ms. What's-Her-Name gets one jar), as opposed to one jar per person (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-And-So gets two jars). The thing is, we're having trouble figuring out how to display and indicate the "one-jar-per-invitation" request. I'm afraid if we write, "One per couple please" those guests who are coming alone will be offended/confused. I really don't want to have to individually write each couple or name on small tags. Any suggestions for displaying favors and indicating only one jar per invite?

Re: Favor Display/Wording

  • Hi everyone! I'm making and canning homemade apple butter for favors. While we considered making one jar per individual guest, it is unfortunately not in our budget nor do we have the time do make 100+ jars of apple butter. Instead, we have decided to allot one jar per invitation, plus some extra, (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-and-So get one jar, and Ms. What's-Her-Name gets one jar), as opposed to one jar per person (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-And-So gets two jars). The thing is, we're having trouble figuring out how to display and indicate the "one-jar-per-invitation" request. I'm afraid if we write, "One per couple please" those guests who are coming alone will be offended/confused. I really don't want to have to individually write each couple or name on small tags. Any suggestions for displaying favors and indicating only one jar per invite?
    I would just scrap the whole thing if you can't afford/don't have time for one for each guest. It seems like it'll end up being confusing. Favors aren't necessary, but if you do have favors, you need to have enough for everyone.
    ahoyweddingeileenrobInLoveInQueens
  • MRDCle said:
    Hi everyone! I'm making and canning homemade apple butter for favors. While we considered making one jar per individual guest, it is unfortunately not in our budget nor do we have the time do make 100+ jars of apple butter. Instead, we have decided to allot one jar per invitation, plus some extra, (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-and-So get one jar, and Ms. What's-Her-Name gets one jar), as opposed to one jar per person (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-And-So gets two jars). The thing is, we're having trouble figuring out how to display and indicate the "one-jar-per-invitation" request. I'm afraid if we write, "One per couple please" those guests who are coming alone will be offended/confused. I really don't want to have to individually write each couple or name on small tags. Any suggestions for displaying favors and indicating only one jar per invite?
    I would just scrap the whole thing if you can't afford/don't have time for one for each guest. It seems like it'll end up being confusing. Favors aren't necessary, but if you do have favors, you need to have enough for everyone.
    Thanks for the input, but I'm not going to scrap the whole idea. :)
  • MRDCle said:
    Hi everyone! I'm making and canning homemade apple butter for favors. While we considered making one jar per individual guest, it is unfortunately not in our budget nor do we have the time do make 100+ jars of apple butter. Instead, we have decided to allot one jar per invitation, plus some extra, (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-and-So get one jar, and Ms. What's-Her-Name gets one jar), as opposed to one jar per person (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-And-So gets two jars). The thing is, we're having trouble figuring out how to display and indicate the "one-jar-per-invitation" request. I'm afraid if we write, "One per couple please" those guests who are coming alone will be offended/confused. I really don't want to have to individually write each couple or name on small tags. Any suggestions for displaying favors and indicating only one jar per invite?
    I would just scrap the whole thing if you can't afford/don't have time for one for each guest. It seems like it'll end up being confusing. Favors aren't necessary, but if you do have favors, you need to have enough for everyone.
    Thanks for the input, but I'm not going to scrap the whole idea. :)
    Then the only way I see to make it not confusing would be to label them individually and have them serve as escort cards like @shessocold suggested. 
    MobKazInLoveInQueensMesmrEwe
  • I like PP idea to attach the escort cards to the favor- at some weddings I have my own table assignment card but I’m usually on the same one as my H.

    I had the opposite thing happen- we had enough favors for all of our guests plus some extras JIC, and we had a couple dozen left over because some of the guests thought it was one per couple. I felt a little bad bc I wouldn’t have imagined not having one for each guest, and figured the guests assumed that’s what we did  :# but if it helps in any way, I guess some of the guests had experienced that before, so I guess it won’t come as a surprise to your guests.
  • MobKazMobKaz Chicago suburbs
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    MRDCle said:
    Hi everyone! I'm making and canning homemade apple butter for favors. While we considered making one jar per individual guest, it is unfortunately not in our budget nor do we have the time do make 100+ jars of apple butter. Instead, we have decided to allot one jar per invitation, plus some extra, (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-and-So get one jar, and Ms. What's-Her-Name gets one jar), as opposed to one jar per person (i.e. Mr. & Mrs. So-And-So gets two jars). The thing is, we're having trouble figuring out how to display and indicate the "one-jar-per-invitation" request. I'm afraid if we write, "One per couple please" those guests who are coming alone will be offended/confused. I really don't want to have to individually write each couple or name on small tags. Any suggestions for displaying favors and indicating only one jar per invite?
    I would just scrap the whole thing if you can't afford/don't have time for one for each guest. It seems like it'll end up being confusing. Favors aren't necessary, but if you do have favors, you need to have enough for everyone.
    I agree first and foremost with this sentiment.  Do something properly or not at all.  You have already discovered you run the risk of causing offense and/or confusion.  Always err on the side of caution!  Get smaller jars or find a few extra hours to make it work.
    ahoyweddingInLoveInQueensjustsie
  • Really the only way to make it work is to attach the favor to the escort card & label the escort cards as "Jane & John Doe." However, that leaves you in an awkward situation if you allowed anyone a plus one and they brought a friend, because typically those people aren't listed on the same escort card. Do you have anyone in that situation?

    I do agree though that it would be best to do it right or not at all. It kind of sounds like you already acknowledge that you can't do it correctly, nor do you want to. In that case, it may be best to skip the favors or do something else. 
    eileenrob
  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe
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    Yes - another vote for "All or nothing" here..  Favors are not a necessity, but doing something for all of your guests is if you are going to have them.  I also maintain that if you work with an apple orchard and who they use to do the canning that you can do this on a budget but you need to do that footwork now...  Also, with an orchard, often they'll have "seconds" or "pie apples" (bag with random varieties that are bruised or don't look pretty) that you can get at a reduced rate, especially if you're purchasing in bulk to make for all of your guests.  Check that route for taking the cost down.  

    I'm going to jump on the Food Safety end...  You NEED/MUST label the apple butters with the pertinent details about the processing time and you must do this properly making sure the lids have sealed.  I'm NAF of DIY food, but this will ensure your guests who are "in the know" on food safetly/canning know it's actually o.k. to take and consume...
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  • MesmrEwe said:
    Yes - another vote for "All or nothing" here..  Favors are not a necessity, but doing something for all of your guests is if you are going to have them.  I also maintain that if you work with an apple orchard and who they use to do the canning that you can do this on a budget but you need to do that footwork now...  Also, with an orchard, often they'll have "seconds" or "pie apples" (bag with random varieties that are bruised or don't look pretty) that you can get at a reduced rate, especially if you're purchasing in bulk to make for all of your guests.  Check that route for taking the cost down.  

    I'm going to jump on the Food Safety end...  You NEED/MUST label the apple butters with the pertinent details about the processing time and you must do this properly making sure the lids have sealed.  I'm NAF of DIY food, but this will ensure your guests who are "in the know" on food safetly/canning know it's actually o.k. to take and consume...
    Oh gosh I didn't even think about this! Canning food is so much different than making cookies or something for a favor. Be sure to also note the ingredients in case of any allergies. 
  • Meh - I think a favor by social unit isn't the worst thing.   As long as it's per couple and if kids are invited then you're not limiting them too I don't think it's that big a deal.   

    That said, I think the only way to do this is to make them part of the place cards  / table assignments.   Then it's one per social unit and the couple takes one as they go to their table and those who are not attending as a couple take one as part of their single table assignment.

    I would also be quite clear on your ingredients and if you are a contaminant free household.   Ex: put a disclaimer on the bottom: "the following allergens are not ingredients but are found in the facility where this was made: peanuts, tree nuts, shellfish, bumblebees". 
  • You could also word it as "one per household" This way families are only taking one and plus ones aren't assumed to get one. At my Fiancé's brother's wedding, they just had their whiskey bottles (favors) on a table by the door for those who wanted them. They also ran out/didn't have enough for everyone. I would either put someone in charge of that table to pass them out, only pass them out at a certain time or label them as mentioned above. 
  • lovesclimbinglovesclimbing Alaska
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    edited September 11
    MesmrEwe said:
    Yes - another vote for "All or nothing" here..  Favors are not a necessity, but doing something for all of your guests is if you are going to have them.  I also maintain that if you work with an apple orchard and who they use to do the canning that you can do this on a budget but you need to do that footwork now...  Also, with an orchard, often they'll have "seconds" or "pie apples" (bag with random varieties that are bruised or don't look pretty) that you can get at a reduced rate, especially if you're purchasing in bulk to make for all of your guests.  Check that route for taking the cost down.  

    I'm going to jump on the Food Safety end...  You NEED/MUST label the apple butters with the pertinent details about the processing time and you must do this properly making sure the lids have sealed.  I'm NAF of DIY food, but this will ensure your guests who are "in the know" on food safetly/canning know it's actually o.k. to take and consume...
    Oh gosh I didn't even think about this! Canning food is so much different than making cookies or something for a favor. Be sure to also note the ingredients in case of any allergies. 
    Actually, you don't need to do this, and I think it's overkill. Yes, noting ingredients is a good idea. Also, yes, of course it should be processed correctly. But there is no need to put processing information on it. And who's to say you're not lying about it or stretching the truth a little if you did?

    Commercial products don't have this. You don't even have to put that info on canned goods processed in home kitchens and sold at farmers markets. 

    ETA: Hit post too soon. Also, anyone who does not can or rarely cans is going to have no idea what a processing time means. I don't even remember all the numbers, and I can jam and such every fall. Depending on the type of fruit and what exactly you're making, the time for a hot water bath can be anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour. And then if you live somewhere high altitude, it's going to be different. And if you decide to pressure can instead of hot water bath, the times will be different as well. 

    STARMOON44
  • MesmrEwe said:
    Yes - another vote for "All or nothing" here..  Favors are not a necessity, but doing something for all of your guests is if you are going to have them.  I also maintain that if you work with an apple orchard and who they use to do the canning that you can do this on a budget but you need to do that footwork now...  Also, with an orchard, often they'll have "seconds" or "pie apples" (bag with random varieties that are bruised or don't look pretty) that you can get at a reduced rate, especially if you're purchasing in bulk to make for all of your guests.  Check that route for taking the cost down.  

    I'm going to jump on the Food Safety end...  You NEED/MUST label the apple butters with the pertinent details about the processing time and you must do this properly making sure the lids have sealed.  I'm NAF of DIY food, but this will ensure your guests who are "in the know" on food safetly/canning know it's actually o.k. to take and consume...
    Oh gosh I didn't even think about this! Canning food is so much different than making cookies or something for a favor. Be sure to also note the ingredients in case of any allergies. 
    Actually, you don't need to do this, and I think it's overkill. Yes, noting ingredients is a good idea. Also, yes, of course it should be processed correctly. But there is no need to put processing information on it. And who's to say you're not lying about it or stretching the truth a little if you did?

    Commercial products don't have this. You don't even have to put that info on canned goods processed in home kitchens and sold at farmers markets. 

    ETA: Hit post too soon. Also, anyone who does not can or rarely cans is going to have no idea what a processing time means. I don't even remember all the numbers, and I can jam and such every fall. Depending on the type of fruit and what exactly you're making, the time for a hot water bath can be anywhere from 10 minutes to an hour. And then if you live somewhere high altitude, it's going to be different. And if you decide to pressure can instead of hot water bath, the times will be different as well. 
    Yes. If you don’t trust the safety of it, don’t eat it. This is really silly to list as a must do. 
    lovesclimbing
  • Can you just use smaller jars so that you'll have enough for each person to get one?
  • Or you can send them the concept 
    Family is like a team,Share is the most to one family,Share every precise jar.

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