Ok, so I am a second time bride. I want things to be totally different than the first time, partially because I let everyone else tell me what to do, how to do it, and when to do it. That has nothing to do with my question though I guess. My MOH is AMAZING, I love her to death!! I have 3 bridesmaids (including my future step-daughter who will be almost 12 when we get married) and one 'groomslady' (future step-daughter who will be almost 18-she HATES me, is currently not speaking to us because we are engaged and she doesn't want us to get married but he is insistent that she be in the wedding... compromise I guess). My MOH is a dear dear friend, two of the girls are future step-daughters, and the last but not least BM is my GORGEOUS future sister in law.
So I guess my question really is, what can I talk to my MOH about without being a psycho bride? Can I talk to her about gifts for the bridal party? I don't want to take away from the 'surprise' of the gift, but I also need someone to give me their opinion and I always turn to her... I want all the girls to feel and be as included as possible, though I know with at least one I can only do so much. I want to be as laid back and calm as possible, and I just don't know what crosses the line when it comes to talking to my MOH..
*On a side note this is the most stressful thing about our wedding for me so far... We had a venue, photographer, caterer, florist, officiant, my dress, colors, and bridal party picked out within a month of getting engaged and 11 months before the wedding.)