I’ve been dating a guy for about a month and a half now (we’re both gay). Recently I met his friends for the first time, and he volunteered that we met at a “group medical meeting,” where all members had the same illness. Instantly the air went out of the room, and I could feel the others felt sorry for not only him, but for me. I am not comfortable sharing this medical information, and I haven’t even shared it with my own family. How do I tell him that this will make me uncomfortable? I do not want to offend him, and I don’t want to hide behind my illness either.