hi all -
so i have an MOH, and 2 BMs. MOH has been really wonderful. a great friend. totally involved and awesome. 1 BM is my brother's girlfriend- again, totally great- considering her and brother have only been together 1.5 years and the wedding planning is her first time meeting a lot of family, esp. extended family. so again, great. last BM - welllll...she is sucking big time and i am getting annoyed. she is a good friend of FI's from middle school and i asked her to be in the wedding since this girl is like a sister to him. i should mention she is from NJ, currently living in DC and the other BMs are from RI and Mass, so obvi closer to me living here in RI. she didn't come for the fittings and dress choosing - ok fine - its a lot to come from DC just to give measurements - but then didnt come for my shower here (im having another one in NJ in a few weeks that FMIL is throwing for her family down there) or my bachelorette - apparently when she told my mom and MOH that she would come - she bailed last minute on both of those events. i call her, no call back, emails - same thing. its like- i want her to be involved but she doesnt seem to care. FI is getting annoyed with her at this point too. he is not that close with her anymore - so I am really stuck. if she doesnt come to this shower in NJ - since she is from there- and was supposed to help plan it - even though she didnt and FMIL told me she did the whole thing, then i dont know what to do. with 7 weeks to go - could i pull her from the wedding? it would be so awkward but she hasnt done anything- not that im saying you need to come to shower and parties and spend money but at least call and answer emails. also dont post on facebook that you and your bf are out every weekend at dinner and clubs and going on vacation - if you "have no money" as she clams as her reason for not being able to come here to participate in these events. its not like we even did an extravagent bach party -we got our nails done and went to dinner. ugh. so annoyed. and my MOH and BM are annoyed with her too - its not fair to them or me.