I've been really lucky in that my FI is in Japan and we can skype (literally ALL the time) AND that he wanted to wear his Dress Blues, but other than that, it was all up to me. Just make sure you're clear on what he may or may not want before you start. Make a list of questions you have for whenever you can talk to him (can he call? or email?) Good Luck!!
I would just ask him if he has any specific requests that he would like. Also ask him if he wants to wear his uniform and if there are any other ties to the military he wants to make. Do you email him often? You can keep him updated with ideas and things you've planned without overwhelming him. It would give him something fun to think about and picture in his head. But I agree on not bombarding him with every detail about flowers and chair covers and what not. Find out what he is most interested in too and you can give him some options or ideas to let him pick and have a say. My H's biggest concerns were the food and the bar, so he loved doing the food tasting and picking the menu. He would have killed me if I made him go to a flower appointment, or even talk in more detail about flowers other than what color they were. Posted by dnbeach12