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Shhhh it's a secret...

CatNolanCatNolan
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Welllllll I'm off to get JOP married. Wish me luck :-P
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    *Sigh* at the secret part.
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  • MrsOjoButtonsMrsOjoButtons
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    edited December 2011
    Well, it's not a good secret because you're filing a public document in a government courthouse.

    Secondly, "Be not afraid of greatness", but have little integrity. Awesome.

    What caused you to bump your wedding up by nearly 3 years?
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  • amylydia23amylydia23
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    edited December 2011
    Congratulations!
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  • rojobrorojobro member
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    edited December 2011

    Getting married to someone you love is a wonderful thing.  I'm very happy for you both. 
    Many military couples JOP it, tell their VERY close relatives and keep mum until the big wedding.  It's personal preference.  Here's wishing you two a lifetime of happiness and congratulations.

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  • klsnyder84klsnyder84 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_shhhh-its-secret?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9da1d23e-0b36-4d09-96ec-ff1f09a90ccePost:26f8b9b4-230a-4503-9d15-38132a47233a">Re: Shhhh it's a secret...</a>:
    [QUOTE] Many military couples JOP it, tell their VERY close relatives and keep mum until the big wedding.
    Posted by rojobro[/QUOTE]

    This is exactly what my FI and I did. We got married last Friday and are planning a big wedding this September.  It allows me to move to the town he is stationed and set up a house before the wedding. We just couldn't stand being apart any longer. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    I think keeping mum, and the way OP is sounding, I think she's keeping mum to EVERYONE, kind of goes against the ideals of integrity and excellence in all we do.

    Do whatever the heck you want, but the lying will ALWAYS bother people like me.
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  • amylydia23amylydia23
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    edited December 2011
    I did the JOP wedding but I didnt keep it quiet.  Everyone knows and are very excited for the big wedding!
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  • CatNolanCatNolan
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    edited December 2011
    Nope, I def had his whole family with me, Just close fam and witnesses. He's leaving april 26th, and i wont be seeing him till graduation. It just made sense. we were married by  a JOP that was actually in N's mom's army unit almost 22 years ago, and it was totally a coincidence. The stars aligned, and it was beautiful. Thanks for the support from those who understand all too well, and good luck to you as well. :-)
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  • kyrgyzstankyrgyzstan member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_shhhh-its-secret?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:9da1d23e-0b36-4d09-96ec-ff1f09a90ccePost:254533d0-36d1-4131-8831-bf9261e4a594">Re: Shhhh it's a secret...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Nope, I def had his whole family with me, Just close fam and witnesses. He's leaving april 26th, and i wont be seeing him till graduation. It just made sense. we were married by  a JOP that was actually in N's mom's army unit almost 22 years ago, and it was totally a coincidence. The stars aligned, and it was beautiful. Thanks for the support from those who understand all too well, and good luck to you as well. :-)
    Posted by CatNolan[/QUOTE]


    Well, I'm glad you're not keeping it a secret. And just because there are those of us who don't support lying doesn't mean we don't support JOPs. I don't care what people do with their own lives, as long as they're not lying.
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  • tendonheadtendonhead member
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    edited December 2011

    Are you still having a big wedding later? I saw that you got engaged earlier this month and just wondered what you were planning.

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  • crimsonchikcrimsonchik
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    edited December 2011
    im technically married.  we are both overseas so did the double proxy thing through montana. .. . . and no, our fam doesnt know.

    wedding is in october!!!!
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  • kaynix21kaynix21 member
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    edited December 2011
    Congrats to being married to your man! :)
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  • JMU_Bride09JMU_Bride09
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    edited December 2011
    Congratulations!!!!!!
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  • Future.Mrs.CarterFuture.Mrs.Carter
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    edited December 2011
    I think about eloping constantly. Wedding planning is stressful plus there's the nagging feeling that you want to be married RIGHT NOW. I totally get doing the JOP thing now and having the family wedding later.
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  • CatNolanCatNolan
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    edited December 2011
    We are planning a big celebration thats very family in-compassing. In fact I've sent out engagement announcements to our family's with a note to send any family pictures we can double. Then we'll use in them in different frames we'll have as our center pieces/favors. ( they're frames that are wooden all different shapes and sizes that are painted wedding colors that we'll fill with different happy memories from everyone in the two family's ) Everyone is really excited and i've even received phone calls from his extended family in Puerto Rico saying congrats and telling me all about the photos they have for us. That way, Nolan and I got out quiet day together, and our wedding will be a celebration of combining our familys and everyone gets a lil extra credit for building such a beautiful family.
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  • NicciSal91NicciSal91
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_shhhh-its-secret?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:9da1d23e-0b36-4d09-96ec-ff1f09a90ccePost:6285da5f-bd84-4108-b835-ccaf72926153">Re: Shhhh it's a secret...</a>:
    [QUOTE]We are planning a big celebration thats very family in-compassing. In fact I've sent out engagement announcements to our family's with a note to send any family pictures we can double. Then we'll use in them in different frames we'll have as our center pieces/favors. ( they're frames that are wooden all different shapes and sizes that are painted wedding colors that we'll fill with different happy memories from everyone in the two family's ) Everyone is really excited and i've even received phone calls from his extended family in Puerto Rico saying congrats and telling me all about the photos they have for us. That way, Nolan and I got out quiet day together, and our wedding will be a celebration of combining our familys and everyone gets a lil extra credit for building such a beautiful family.
    Posted by CatNolan[/QUOTE]

    i think its great you can be so postive even with all the negative comments your getting about this. i did the same thing. only telling close family. most of the couples on our base did. we dont see it as a big lie. these people act like they have never told a lie in their life and its so horrible that we are keeping our private lives secret. i understand why people could see it in a bad light but to each their own. congrats girl
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