Could really use some input..

amh04

Ya know.. it keeps me completely dumbfounded how some people can not just simply be happy for a couple and support them - why it has to be made into a huge uproar and why it has to be all about tradition... didn't traditions start somewhere? I'm a firm believer in doing what is going to make you the most happy, and if it causes drama then oh well, like your dad said, 'well see you at the recpetion'. I'm not worried about it at this point. If they are going to be that upset about it - whatever. I've done more than enough to accommidate both sides at this point.
I hope they don't react poorly about your ceremony. They should just be happy for you in the end, not overly concerned about the lack of a priest at your ceremony.. it doesn't make your marriage any less of a marriage without one. We almost didn't do it in a church..

Irishcurls

Amh, we're opposite of you guys (I'm Catholic, FI is not) and I wanted a full Mass. FI didn't care either way but the priest and I talked and decided against it for the very reasons youre saying--the Rite of Marriage is a unifying ceremony and having half of you not receive communion is "dis-unifying" so we opted to skip it as well. Plus, if you just do the Liturgy of the Word and the Rite of Marriage, there is no kneeling--a lot less "moves" for non-Catholics to try to follow along with--sort of win win for everyone. Really hoping it works out the way you invision it!! Keep us posted!

amh04

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[QUOTE]Amh, we're opposite of you guys (I'm Catholic, FI is not) and I wanted a full Mass. FI didn't care either way but the priest and I talked and decided against it for the very reasons youre saying--the Rite of Marriage is a unifying ceremony and having half of you not receive communion is "dis-unifying" so we opted to skip it as well. Plus, <strong>if you just do the Liturgy of the Word and the Rite of Marriage, there is no kneeling--a lot less "moves" for non-Catholics to try to follow along with--sort of win win for everyone.</strong> Really hoping it works out the way you invision it!! Keep us posted!
Posted by Irishcurls[/QUOTE]

Thanks for sharing this info! I'll definitely be asking our priest about this when we speak with him next and let him know that we do not want communion. I'm glad to know that someone else decided the same way, and can understand where I'm coming from. FI doesn't seem to really care. I think he was a little shocked tho, because for the first time I kind of really put my foot down about this and flat out said no. For the most part I've been pretty laid back regarding it all. I'll keep you all updated and I really really appreciate the input/advice/kind words <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />

Danidawn20

Hi,

So as weird as it may seem this is the fi not the bride to be, I'm home for a little bit of leave time and came across this post. To let you know I went through RCIA and sad to say the only time I was allowed to be baptized was during Easter vigil along with confirmation and first communion, from everything I was taught it only happens during the vigil so you really don't need to worry about fmil's ideas. Hope this can help a little, best of luck since I wont be back for a while.

Irishcurls

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Could really use some input.. : Thanks for sharing this info! I'll definitely be asking our priest about this when we speak with him next and let him know that we do not want communion. I'm glad to know that someone else decided the same way, and can understand where I'm coming from. FI doesn't seem to really care. I think he was a little shocked tho, because for the first time I kind of really put my foot down about this and flat out said no. For the most part I've been pretty laid back regarding it all. I'll keep you all updated and I really really appreciate the input/advice/kind words
Posted by amh04[/QUOTE]
Youre welcome! Feel free to PM or ask anything you want along the way. I thought my FMIL was going to kiss me when I told her there was no kneeling. She was so intimidated by the whole thing, which I totally understand. The Catholic church isn't <em>exactly</em> user friendly if you dont know what's going on. :)