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We haven't, but I'd be really open to it. FI isn't very interested, and I don't feel like it's a huge deal, so I haven't pushed the issue. Honestly, I don't see how it could hurt, so if it might give you some pointers and tips, I feel like, why not?Posted by polo1425
I usually associate premartial counseling with religion. Does anyone else?Are there benefits to non-religious premarital counseling? And I wonder who does it then...normal psychologists? And is it covered by insurance at all? Hm...many questions.
In Response to Re: Premarital Counseling: Did you? Will you? : That's definitely a factor for us. I completely respect that for many people, their faith is an important component in their marriage. For us, it's not. So it would feel somewhat...fake? false? to have counseling sessions that talked about that.Posted by polo1425
I usually associate premartial counseling with religion. Does anyone else? Are there benefits to non-religious premarital counseling? And I wonder who does it then...normal psychologists? And is it covered by insurance at all? Hm...many questions.Posted by lunarsongbird
BF and I have talked about alot of the big topics but we have never talked about marriage counceling. He has never had therapy of any kind while I did in college and I know how much it helped me so I am definitely open to it. I'm not sure hwat his thoughts are on it at this moment but I'm definitely going to ask. Neither of us are concerned with religion and it won't be a large part of our marriage but I would also like some ideas on the logistical stuff like finances, children, etc.
We did it and I found it really helpful. I highly recommend it. Ours wasn't so much about communication but it he asked us a lot of questions to see where we stood. While I had answers and felt like we had discussed a lot of the questions there were some we had one. The biggest one I remember is who will take care of your parents when they are older and need help? I had never thought of that one before or discussed it so I found that really helpful. He was also able to help FI realize some things about his family that I had never been able to get him to realize before so that was really good. Also he helped me realize some things about myself that could be destructive to our marriage farther down the road. While I don't think a marriage will fail if you don't do it, I feel like there is no harm and if anything it can be a benefit.
Married! May 27th, 2012