so I have kind of a tough question. The final call is 100% up to fi but he's asking my opinion and what I think is the best way to handle this situation and I would just like to get others opinions so I have a feel for outsiders thoughts. Fi had two bestmen - unfortunately one passed away during the wedding planning. We are now submitting information for wedding programs and need to list the wedding party as well as the section where we remember my grandparents, neice and some others who passed away. So the question is would you include the bestman who passed in the program as a bestman - if so would you acknowledge in that section in any way he's not with us or would you list the other bestman only and put the friend in the remembrance section? I think I'm leaning towards including him and not mentioning it and then also including him in the section of others who passed and letting people who don't know make the connection. Again, it's fi decision but I just want others opinions before I give him mine so I can know I've really thought it through fully. Thanks!