Let me preface this by saying that FI always has some new idea of what we need that is bigger or better than the last thing. He does this with jobs too. When he got his most recent job, it was the best job ever, he was so proud, and so happy with how much money he was making. FI recently got an offer to interview for a promotion within his company. This job would offer more money (maybe $20,000-$30,000) a year, it would have job security, and be a M-F manager position. He'll graduate in December with his Bachelors degree in business administration. His supervisors love him, and have always pushed for him to move up in the company. FI was the kind of person who NEVER wanted to leave our hometown. That was, until he saw the salary. This job would relocate us at a minimum of 4 hours away, but could possibly relocate up to 20 hours away, we would also have no chance to ever mo ve back to the area. Yes, he would have weekends off, but I'm a nurse and right now we both work night shift. If he took this position, we would only have 4 days off a month together, because I'd work every other weekend. Also, there's no guarantee I'd be able to get a better paying or even an equal paying job. The towns we would relocate to are small, in the middle of nowhere towns. I'm happy with my job now. Also, at his current job, FI will be getting a 20% pay raise over the next 5 years, which will amount to about n extra $10,000 a year. I'm happy here. We have family and friends here. My dad suffered a massive stroke last year and almost died. I'm scared if something happens again, I won't make it in time. Literally last week, FI couldn't stop talking about how excited he was to buy a house here and how great everything was going. In the end, he left it up to me to decide what we would do. I decided to stay here. Am I being selfish? I just can't justify moving to a boring town, hours away JUST for the money. The job would also separate use for the entire first year of our marriage, since he'd have to train in Florida for a year, and I'd have to stay here and work. Edit: I'm scared FI will always resent me. I can tell he's sad. But, to me, money isn't everything. What if we're unhappy if we moved? We'd be stuck.
