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my invite/decline count

Yeah... uh oh..... I promised my FMIL I wouldn't stress until we get close to 120.

Solution? Open the patio portion, provide heaters, if need be.
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Re: my invite/decline count

  • At the end of the day, you never truly know who is going to accept and who is going to decline.  Making assumptions one way or the other is just poor planning.

    Lots of people travel for OOT weddings.  It is really not a big deal for us to travel for a wedding. 
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    [QUOTE]Of the 35 Yes replies - who is OOT and who is on your "expected" list?
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    So far, everyone who I expected from out of state and said yes were people I expected to say yes. They are the ones I am close to.

    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_check-out-invitedecline-count?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4e75afb0-b038-4e6d-8f3e-aeaa384ac589Post:aaeffdb0-2f86-40dc-90ee-cc47eda433a6">Re: check out my invite/decline count</a>:
    [QUOTE] I don't get why you would extend invitations to 80 people that you truly don't think will attend your wedding.  <strong>As it stands, if they decide to RSVP yes, they are doing you a disservice rather than pleasantly surprising you with their attendance.  If they aren't close enough to you that even YOU don't think they'll watch you get married, then why give them the opportunity to attend? </strong>   Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    Not at all, I'd be totally stoked if more could come.  They wouldn't be doing me a disservice if they could come. The reasons behind this are too long to into here. PM if you really want to know.


    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_check-out-invitedecline-count?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:4e75afb0-b038-4e6d-8f3e-aeaa384ac589Post:aaeffdb0-2f86-40dc-90ee-cc47eda433a6">Re: check out my invite/decline count</a>:
    [QUOTE]  I think only expecting less than a 1/3 of your OOT guests to come was a <em><strong>mistake</strong></em>.  Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    Wrong. My mom has 8 siblings. Yep, 8. FI's mom has 3 siblings. Not <em><strong>one</strong></em> of any of those families lives within 1800 miles of AZ. Notta one.  I know their situations pretty well and so far have made  accurate estimations of who will and won't actually fly out.
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  • I'm with PP (who have pretty much all said the same thing & yet you keep telling them they're all wrong).  I mean, I just don't know why you would want the added stress of it all.  Hope it works out.



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    [QUOTE]Then why are you making it a point to have us look at your siggy and tell us about how you're possibly facing going over capacity?  I really don't get it.  Every single person looking at it is going to think the same thing we all said in this thread.  Regardless of the reasons you gave, I still don't get your thought process.  But to each their own.  
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]

    I agree.

    If you have it as worked out as you claim, why bring attention to it in the first place? Did you expect a different reaction?
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    [QUOTE]Let's play with some math. 2/3 of our guests are from out of town. 113 of the 179 are from out of town. Of the 113 out of town guests, we're expecting 33 to actually show up.... this is based off of who told us that they are absolutely definitely flying or driving in. Of the in town guests, I "expected" all will attend on my spread sheet. Don't you think it's a fair assumption that all who live here will at least consider attending? This number is 58. 58+33 = 91.... expected. Even IF more out of towners come, I'd be shocked to see the total number be more than 120. I truly think we will be ok... but definitely cutting it close.
    Posted by NurseyK[/QUOTE]

    This is the rationale my FMIL tried using when she gave me a list of 90+ people to invite to our wedding when we wanted no more than 125 people... We've since bumped our total number of guest we want to 150 and have about 163 on the guest list. I am expecting 163 people to come.

    Good luck with this!
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  • So this wasn't meant as a "look at me and tell me how stupid I was" post. I'm quite aware.

    If we have everyone show up, one contingency plan is to open the patio. Put heaters outside. Voila.

    Of the 179 who are invited... all were wanted... all are welcome. However.... it won't be 179. Knowing who is unable to travel or has already told me that their family can't afford to send even one, I'd be shocked to see more than 140.... and am betting on 100.
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    [QUOTE]<strong>Then why are you making it a point to have us look at your siggy and tell us about how you're possibly facing going over capacity?</strong>  I really don't get it.  Every single person looking at it is going to think the same thing we all said in this thread.  Regardless of the reasons you gave, I still don't get your thought process.  But to each their own.  
    Posted by yaga13[/QUOTE]


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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: check out my invite/decline count :
    Posted by TheMutleys[/QUOTE]

    ... I changed the sig.
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