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    K Everdeen12K Everdeen12
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday night/KUI? : I hear you.  Currently, BF likes to drunk dial me or drunk text me on his way home from the bar.  I still think its cute.  Ask me again in a few weeks when I have to share a bed with said drunko, and I can guarantee I won't think its cute anymore. 
    Posted by suzie211[/QUOTE]

    <div>Exactly!  Well it wasn't so cute when he was drunk dialing me from the train, no longer answered the phone, and then some random person who answered his phone brought it home because he found it on said train.</div><div>
    </div><div>This has happened twice in our relationship.  I got a really hilarious voicemail out of it the second time, though.  I ended up deleting when we broke up a few months later.  When we got back together, I was so angry at myself for not saing it.  It was a great mood-lifter.  </div>
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    [QUOTE]Ugh I'm sorry becunning.  :( Elle - a Shocktop sounds delightful.  I may move to a Blue Moon since I finished my wine. So this is sort of embarassing to admit, but I can't stand when other people are sick.  Like I get super anxious and have to get away if there is even a chance of vomit.  (One of the reasons I'm not 100% on kids.)  Well FI came home wasted.  One, that's annoying because we have to be up early tomorrow and we both need to pack, and it will be a long day with the wedding.  Two, he's THAT drunk that vomit could be a possibility.  I literally started shaking and had to walk out of the room when he came into the living room to "talk" to me.  (Talk in quotes because homeboy is fuucking wasted, there is no real conversation.)  I'm sleeping on the couch tonight because I just can't handle this situation.  WTF?  I guess we need to have a chat.  I mean it's not his fault that I can't handle drunk/sick people, but I guess I'm also pissed off that we haven't had much time together this week (I started classes again) and instead of going out for a few drinks and coming home to hang out with me, he's passed out drunk at 10:30 pm.  Ugh.  I feel a fight coming in on in the morning.  I don't understand why he has to drink *that* much, especially with a wedding tomorrow and a beer pong tournament on Sunday.  Advice, words of wisdom, funny stories are all welcome as I go get myself a beer.  That's a reasonable reaction, right?
    Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]

    Boo on your FI.

    BF got wasted on Saturday with his friends. He started puking at like 1 AM. I sat in the bathroom with him until almost 4 AM. I couldn't be too mad because it's the first time he's ever gotten that drunk. But I think I deserve an awesome GF award for cleaning up after him and dealing with him puking for three hours.

    Sick people don't really bother me though.


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    I don't think I've ever heard of it before... go figure.:-(    Beer does sounds good.

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    becunning2becunning2 member
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    Elle, I think this afternoon maybe is the last straw. But I also sent an email asking for the last time whether he'd do counseling. I am right at towel stage, but overall we have had 3.5 good years, so it's hard. I wish my apartment were avail sooner so I could figure this out with space. Tarra: 3 that sounds do cute!!!
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    K Everdeen12K Everdeen12
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    Oh and I want to record the gymnastics competitions while I'm away, and I don't know how to work my DVR.  Another thing FI will need to do in a drunken/hungover stupor tomorrow.  
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday night/KUI? : Beer.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]


    Very yummy beer this GF girl misses.   Also missed is the very yummy Apricot flavor Magic Hat #9.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday night/KUI? : Boo on your FI. BF got wasted on Saturday with his friends. He started puking at like 1 AM. I sat in the bathroom with him until almost 4 AM. I couldn't be too mad because it's the first time he's ever gotten that drunk. But I think I deserve an awesome GF award for cleaning up after him and dealing with him puking for three hours. Sick people don't really bother me though.
    Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

    <div>I won't even describe the nastiness that I had to deal with a few months ago.  But that one night was pretty much all I can handle for a long time.</div><div>
    </div><div>It's sad that sick people bother me - but I get the same panicky reaction.  I don't know why, I threw up all the time when I was younger due to some undiagnosed stomach problems.  </div>
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    becunning2becunning2 member
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    Yes. He strongly implied he'd like me to stay longer. He gave me extra good after I packed enough for two days. He said "stay as long as you want" but he seemed unhappy when I said I was coming back Sunday night because I work on Monday. He pointed out that my job is closer to my moms house. So yes... He made it clear without saying it that he didn't want me to come home.
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    [QUOTE]Elle, I think this afternoon maybe is the last straw. But I also sent an email asking for the last time whether he'd do counseling. I am right at towel stage, but overall we have had 3.5 good years, so it's hard. I wish my apartment were avail sooner so I could figure this out with space. Tarra: 3 that sounds do cute!!!
    Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

    Aw.  :(  I mean, I want you to do what you need to do, but it seems like this has deteriorated really fast.  Weren't you happy until you went to Latin camp?  Or were there problems before that?
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    [QUOTE]Yep, I'm at my parentals. I hope to get my paper finished and do some work. I can't really camp out here forever though because my kitties can't come. So here for the weekend, <strong>though bf made it clear he would like me to stay longer.</strong>.. I get impatient when people get crazy drunk, so I dont have advice. I am, however, getting more wine.
    Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

    Not cool.  For now, it is still your place.
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    Gah! I hate typing on my phone!
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    I can't stand puking either, it really bothers me and almost gets me sick too.  I hate it even when the cats get sick...it makes me sick thinking about it. blarghhhhh....

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday night/KUI? : I won't even describe the nastiness that I had to deal with a few months ago.  But that one night was pretty much all I can handle for a long time. It's sad that sick people bother me - but I get the same panicky reaction.  I don't know why, I threw up all the time when I was younger due to some undiagnosed stomach problems.  
    Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]

    BF can't handle sick people either. When I get sick he will come over to get me whatever I need to be comfortable and then leave.


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    [QUOTE]Yes. He strongly implied he'd like me to stay longer. He gave me extra good after I packed enough for two days. He said "stay as long as you want" but he seemed unhappy when I said I was coming back Sunday night because I work on Monday. He pointed out that my job is closer to my moms house. So yes... He made it clear without saying it that he didn't want me to come home.
    Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Wow.  He's really acting mature about this.  I hope that possibly he's putting up a tough front and will be able to deal with things more maturely after he has some time to think about it - meaning he'll agree to counseling and actually listening to your needs.  And if that's not what you want - that's totally fine too, but I hope he can pull his shiiit together enough that you can live together civilly until your move date.</div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday night/KUI? : Boo on your FI. BF got wasted on Saturday with his friends. He started puking at like 1 AM. I sat in the bathroom with him until almost 4 AM. I couldn't be too mad because it's the first time he's ever gotten that drunk. But I think I deserve an awesome GF award for cleaning up after him and dealing with him puking for three hours. Sick people don't really bother me though.
    Posted by bethsmiles[/QUOTE]

    You're definitely a better GF than I am.  Nick came home with a horrible stomach bug once, and I had to leave the apartment.  I made sure he had everything he needed and then I got my ass out of there.  I can't handle puking at all.
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    Elle, Yes, and no. I had some tickles at the back of my head, nagging concerns, questions, doubts. They surfaced strongly while I was away. We also has a big fight before I left. Liv: I was upset about him letting me cry for five minutes and I mean cry while he played on the Internet. That led into a bigger fight. And roomies are moving in/out and I need to get productive on writing.
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    I almost fear my sister's bachelorette party next Saturday night because I worry someone will get really drunk and/or really sick from it.

    I hope for the time being cunning he can at least be civil to you while you live together.  That's so awful you shouldn't be treated like that.

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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday night/KUI? : I won't even describe the nastiness that I had to deal with a few months ago.  But that one night was pretty much all I can handle for a long time. It's sad that sick people bother me - but I get the same panicky reaction.  I don't know why, I threw up all the time when I was younger due to some undiagnosed stomach problems.  
    Posted by K Everdeen12[/QUOTE]

    I'd say that's pretty normal.  Most people I know aren't crazy about sick people and bodily functions. 

    I tend to have a much higher tolerance for this than most people, but I think it has to do with my career.  At one point in time, I sold wound care products.  Some of the things I've seen make vomit look not so bad.  I still would choose not do deal with it at all though!
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    Good means dog food. Fail.
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    For some reason, it doesn't upload all my punctuation. I must be making Elle nuts!!! And Tarra, go ahead.
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    I'm loving the athletes marching in the parade taking videos and pictures as they march in.  THEY are the famous (or to-be-famous) ones!  LeBron James looked like a little kid going to Disney World for the first time.  
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    [QUOTE]Cunning: Gotcha. I was hoping it was that you were planning a trip there anyway, not that you were leaving out of anger. Sigh. I'm so sorry. Obviously, I really, really, really get it. 
    Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]

    <div>How are you holding up?  I've been thinking about you.  I'm glad you have a companion for the weekend.  Well companions on top of Tucker and Earl.</div>
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    [QUOTE]For some reason, it doesn't upload all my punctuation. I must be making Elle nuts!!! And Tarra, go ahead.
    Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

    I know how the mobile browser works.  Don't worry.  I'm still perfectly sane over here.
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    Liv - Have you talked to Mo about how your feeling yet? I feel like you might have mentioned it in another thread...

    It makes me sad to hear that so many of you ladies (not in this thread in the confessions thread) are unhappy in your relationships. You all deserve nothing less than amazing!


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    Liv is hangin with a super cute puppy! Pets make things better.
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    I wish I could visit each NEY person spend a few days with them hug them and cheer them up. 

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    Awww...Liv :( *hugs* Have you considered couples counseling? It could help to get a third party perspective on things.


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    [QUOTE]Liv is hangin with a super cute puppy! Pets make things better.
    Posted by becunning2[/QUOTE]

    Yes they do!  Here's my furbaby, Simon:)  He's not helping with the packing.


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    Right there with you Liv. I'd put a heart here, but my phone won't let me. So HUGS.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Friday night/KUI? : Ummm...I'm OKish. Mo and I had a talk two nights ago and I was able to express some of my hurts and issues and he heard some of them and responded that he wants to try to work on them and wants me to feel loved and secure and whatever. So that's for sure a start, but I don't know that I can say I feel confident any longer that our needs are the same and that this relationship will provide me with the fulfillment I require for a lifetime of happiness. And that pretty much breaks my heart. So I guess I'm touch and go. Some moments I think it seems so clear that this just isn't working, even though I love him so much. Other moments I think, no, he really wants to work on this and this can change. I am just so, so confused. I pretty much cry at the drop of a hat. Sorry, I'm longwinded. And confused.
    Posted by LivLeighton[/QUOTE]


    Aww, Liv.  I knew you were struggling but I didn't realize it was "cry at the drop of a hat" bad. 

    This surprises me a lot, actually.  In my mind, you and Mo have such a perfect relationship.

    I hope you can find some sort of clarity soon.
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